How to end it….

[Justsqueezinglemons]

I think I’m done with my relationship but I feel so bad about trying to end it. For a start he’ll have to find somewhere to live as it’s my place, he was lodging with a mate before that.
In so many ways he’s a lovely man but after nearly three years I just can’t stand living with him anymore, all his ‘little ways’ are really grating on me, I don’t even want sex which is a bit of a tell for me.
What do I say without sounding like a complete bitch?

Sooner you tell him It will be better for both. Find a free time to seat down and talk. Tell him your feelings and what you go through inside your mind and heart. Just be straight yet kind and friendly

Would it be possible for him to go back to his friend's house?

If he is a reasonably nice guy, then you can be nice, you need to be very very firm.

Decide what you want the deadline to be before you start talking.

Thank you for the replies everyone

@determinedtomakethiswork no he can’t unfortunately, the whole reason he moved in with me was because mate’s girlfriend was moving in…

@MsGrumpytrousers good idea, thank you

@Rajrutu I know, we don’t seem to have any time lately, all part of the problem!
So I’ll have to find time and a pair of big girl pants!

How did it go?

I’d forgotten about this thread……
Lo and behold I’d given myself a deadline to have the conversation by the end of the month, was just working up to it and he had a really bad accident and seriously injured his back. So then I felt bad about ‘kicking him when he was down’ and thought I’d leave it until he was recovered. Well it’s been a long haul, he’s still not 100% fit. Add in the fact that he lost a close family member and the friend he used to live to with had a sudden cancer diagnosis and also died and I just haven’t had the heart to broach it yet. 🙁