is this innappropriate, or am i just hopelessly old fashioned and out of date?

[pukkapatch]

dh runs own business from home, as well as so called day job. at least two days a week, sometimes three, he has an employee who works in our house. used to be inthe dining room, now in the front room, as i got completely fed up of kids not havng access to living room tv etc when he was in.
very nice, well mannered 23 year old guy. he has just added me to facebook friends. i've accepted him, but now not sure such a good idea. me and him are quite often at home alone. no dh, no kids. ive kept a polite,friendly relathionship with him so far. dont wan thim or anyone else reading naything else into it.
or am i just hoeplessly out of touch with modern life?

I think it's fine if you think it's fine pukka, he obviously sees you as a friend - you can give him limited access if you feel uncomfortable.

I can't see what difference it makes to have him as a FB friend to be honest!

Well I wouldn't blink an eye at that, but why do you think someone would? Has something been said to you that makes you uneasy for instance?

no, jus t my upbringing really.
for example, we never had men stay the night, even relatives. unless accompanied by wife and kids. not something i noticed then, but looking back obvious. and we were never really encouraged to be chatty with male 'staff', but girls were good friends etc.
and the whole girls school mentality.
so basically, its my problem? thought so.

i thin giving limited access is actually worse, iyswim. its admitting that there is a problme.
most fb friends you sort of end up ignoring after exchanging the first few messages and pokes really. so i guess, i will just leave my old inclinations, and try to live in the world as it isnow. not asit was when i was a lass.

Pukka I would be the same as you and feel more comfortable keeping a distance. Sorry just being honest and I like to keep some kind of private life. It depends on what sort of stuff you post on FB personally i would not want my dh's work colleagues seeing my stuff.

I'm not uptight just like some kind of privacy, I mean he probably goes through your knicker drawer as it is.

That last bit was to make you laugh- only kidding.

I don't think it would occur to anyone to read anything else into it.

Facebook is a bit of a loaded weapon isn't it.

I'm sure you will be able to resist each other unless it's like that incredibly lust filled moment in Mistresses where the 2 lawyers who were working face to face across an implausably smaall desk threw themselves on each other.

However you will be required to High Five, have snowball fights , guess who the celebtrities are without their make up and do other random tasks, Facebook is a job in itself.

lol, that would certainly spice things up!
tbh, if he did, and tidied the room up a bit at the same time, he's welcome to.
he's a lovely bloke. just the sort of person you wouldnt mind having in your house. gets on with his work. is polite and friendly if i am, but never actually tries to chat. just gets on with his work. iyswim.
fb isnt really private for me. even though i have only limited it to people i know in rl, its full of all my younger cousins in pakistan, as well as friends in the uk. and since i dont really want those cousins seeng pictures of me at the new years eve party , i dont really put that sort of sstuff on.

no, it s alright. nice as he is, i have no urge to throw myslef on him. or have him throw himself on to me either...

Pukka, no one else will read anything into it, it's definately your upbringing (unless I am confusing you with someone else...)

lol, that okie then.
blame it all on the moms!