6 years ago I got divorced after a long unhappy marriage. It wasn’t particularly vicious, I think he was pretty happy to get shot of me and I was happy to leave.
A year and an half ago I split up from the guy I’d been dating for nearly 3 years after my divorce. I hadn’t seen the misogynistic commitment-phobe red flags, I put up with almost 2 years of virtual sexlessness. He wouldn’t share his life with me but wanted to be part of mine. Finally I found he’d been on Bumble and we finally had our last row. I was pretty down but decided I needed better boundaries. I had to block him in everything because he kept trying to reel me back in or sent angry messages telling me how stupid I was being.
7 months ago I went on a first date with a new guy. I made my boundaries very clear and he is lovely. Really lovely. He is kind, caring, complimentary, passionate, helpful, understanding…. This weekend I opened my mouth and “I love you” fell out. I got an “I love you” back. I’m so happy. This is totally drama free and I think I’m finally accepting that it is going to stay that way!! I just wanted to share!