Hi, was hoping for some advice. My partner and I have been together for 1 year now and he has 2 kids from a previous marriage - both are over 18. We don’t live together but every weekend we spend together and recently I have noticed I am having to pick up the tab for the majority of what we do- I have tried speaking to him about it and he says it’s because his ex keeps spending all the money and he has nothing left as he still feels obligated to pay all the bills. We spoke about going on holiday to in august for 2 weeks- I transferred what he could because he ended up paying for his ex and their daughter to go on holiday and keeps saying he needs to do what makes his comfortable but I have ended up having to pay for the holiday! Similar today he said he was going to pay for a car for his ex for at least the next 6 months to a year. My issue is that it impacts our relationship because either I need to pay for it or we can’t do anything because he is supporting her. We usually get on really well but this weekend has been really tough. We were making dinner together and I couldn’t open a jar so I went to see where he went and he was texting his ex in the hall - not about the kids or dog as he has always said is there only communication. It then escalated from there / it’s causing me anxiety and I am confused what I should do. I asked him for some reassurance but got told I am the only one who can make myself happy, am I being an idiot!!!