Trouble with my boyfriend binge drinking

[Alwaysletdown]

So me and my boyfriend have been together about 3 years now, everything strayed great between us and we had a bit of a party life style at first. We are 36 years old and both have kids from previous relationships and feel like we never do anything anymore. It's clear my boyf has a binge drinking and cocaine issue to the point where he let's me down on plans because he's spent all his money on Friday night on on alcohol and coke. I really do love him and ive been telling him it can't carry on,.... some times we have a nice weekend after I mention it but then it goes back to the same. Now he tells me if i don't want to get smashed at weekend hel just go out with God knows who while I wait at home. Do I carry on trying with him or not. I also need to point out I have emotionally unstable personality disorder too and find this extremely hard.....

Read your post back to yourself @Alwaysletdown and ask yourself who in their right mind would suggest you stay with such a miserable dickhead who has no regard for his partner and doesn’t show a great deal of promise for a happy relationship. He’s told you what he expects. He’s shown his true colours. Dump him. Work on self respect. Live happily ever after.

Your right! God I sound a fool. This will be hard but I can do it

This is not a healthy relationship dynamic. He’s basically telling you he has no interest in changing and so I would seriously consider whether this type of relationship is one to stay in. I know from experience how this feels and the ultimate damage this sort of relationship can do to one’s life and self esteem. He will never be reliable and he only wants a partner who will support his addictions and lifestyle, otherwise he’s not interested. My advice is to get out now. Sometimes, love just isn’t enough to stay in something that doesn’t serve you and actually hurts you x

Do I carry on trying with him or not

No. His love of alcohol and Class A drugs far outweighs any feelings he has for you.

No, you have tried enough. It’s a waste of energy. Energy that you could be using on yourself and your children.

He will drag you down with him even further if you stay and he will further intensify your own EUPD.

Better to be on your own than to be this badly accompanied.