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Dating after a long time - help!

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WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 11:59

I have had a series of red flag situationships and relationships and just generally a bad run. I have been single for a few years now and done the necessary healing.

I've been asked on a date by a guy who is ticking all the right boxes. Met online but friends in common and the reports are all good.

I want to go, but I'm terrified and thinking about just calling it off which I know il regret.

Any advice please?

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pendleflyer · 16/07/2023 12:10

well go for it basically - see it as practice if nothing else.
Must admit to being intrigued by the fact that you met online but have friends in common.
THAT if anything might concern me on the practice front, but maybe I'm odd.

SamW98 · 16/07/2023 12:14

I hear you OP. I haven’t dated for 30 years and the first date I went on I was in a panic and almost cancelled.

Its nerve wracking but at sone point we need to be brave and go for it.

In my case he was a lovely bloke but no spark. But having been on a date after such a long gap did me a lot of good and made me realise I can do this.

Go for it and best of luck

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WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 12:37

pendleflyer · 16/07/2023 12:10

well go for it basically - see it as practice if nothing else.
Must admit to being intrigued by the fact that you met online but have friends in common.
THAT if anything might concern me on the practice front, but maybe I'm odd.

What do you mean?
I live in a city, he lives near me, and we work in the same profession albeit different places.

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WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 21:39

SamW98 · 16/07/2023 12:14

I hear you OP. I haven’t dated for 30 years and the first date I went on I was in a panic and almost cancelled.

Its nerve wracking but at sone point we need to be brave and go for it.

In my case he was a lovely bloke but no spark. But having been on a date after such a long gap did me a lot of good and made me realise I can do this.

Go for it and best of luck

Thank you!

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WildUnchartedWaters · 01/08/2023 13:10

Quick update - it went really well!

Date 2 next week.

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Maninwhite · 02/08/2023 07:11

Stick with it OP. Is is virtually impossible to meet someone these days and even if it feels scary, enjoy the ride. remember when we used to date when we were younger - it was scary then and you drove yourself to distraction over what ifs.

have lots of fun and remember that the feelings of not wanting to get hurt are natural
as deep down you want it to work.

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