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Ex says he still loves me and misses me

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Leanne1191 · 15/07/2023 23:28

Hi,

My ex who I was with for over 8 years has recently started messaging me. We haven't been together for 3 years and he cheated on me. He has since been with this other woman but has I think maybe realised the grass wasn't greener 🤷🏻‍♀️ he has said he misses me, he's still inlove with me, he regrets what he did and wishes he could go back, he has poured his heart out to me . He has also said that we couldn't get back together because I wouldn't trust him and that because we have now had a child by someone else that it wouldn't work and that his mistake will always be brought up etc. he has said he wants to meet up and go out for lunch and misses my company and our friendship because when we was together we was best friends too. He has said over the last year he has realised how bad he treated me and what an ass he was and he regrets it all and feels really bad for it. He has said I'm beautiful and gorgeous and he is still very attracted to me. Is this him just wanting sex? It's all really messed with my head a bit if honest.... we have 2 children together too. I don't know what his intentions are..... im really puzzled 🤯

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Original poster
Leanne1191 · 16/07/2023 05:15

CapEBarra · 16/07/2023 05:04

I guess the OW has found out he isn’t the catch she thought he was, and now she’s trying to kick him out, so he’s trying to worm his way back in as he’ll need a place to stay. In your shoes is knock it on the head right now. ‘Thanks for the message and your apology. I have no wish to revisit the past and think it’s time to move in. All the best.’

He hasn't said he's been kicked out though it's all weird he's still in the house and stuff. He's even said he's happy with her but it's not us his words exactly but how is he happy if he's messaging his ex wife all this stuff..... it's all confusing 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Humidititties · 16/07/2023 05:48

He just wants a shag, fuck him right off

Riapia · 16/07/2023 05:58

The OW often seems to lose much of her appeal when she ceases to be the OW.
Strange that.

Original poster
Leanne1191 · 16/07/2023 06:05

Humidititties · 16/07/2023 05:48

He just wants a shag, fuck him right off

I see that now. I've been thinking about it alot lol

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Original poster
Leanne1191 · 16/07/2023 06:05

Riapia · 16/07/2023 05:58

The OW often seems to lose much of her appeal when she ceases to be the OW.
Strange that.

100%

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TookTheBook · 16/07/2023 06:08

Why is it confusing? Get some standards.

You don't need to be his friend.

Quit reminiscing and getting dragged into his mess and stick to just talking to him about the kids arrangements. Don't meet him for lunch or emotional chat. Move on.

Original poster
Leanne1191 · 16/07/2023 06:12

TookTheBook · 16/07/2023 06:08

Why is it confusing? Get some standards.

You don't need to be his friend.

Quit reminiscing and getting dragged into his mess and stick to just talking to him about the kids arrangements. Don't meet him for lunch or emotional chat. Move on.

It was confusing because of the stuff he was saying, but now after everyone's replies I see it now. I won't be hooking up with him nor will I be going out for lunch with him 😊

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BlastedPimples · 16/07/2023 06:12

Just block him. He's a user looking to see what he can get from you. Flattering you.

Nasty man who betrayed you.

Stratocumulus · 16/07/2023 06:20

He’s a head fkr.
Block him in everything.
Think back to all the hurt he caused you when he presumably had all the power.
He will really mess you up again so take back your power and cease all contact.

Kugela · 16/07/2023 08:04

Sorry to be blunt, but do remember that some men will say almost anything if they think there’s a chance to get you into bed! He’s still a liar and a cheat.

WhineWhineWhineWINE · 16/07/2023 08:27

What an absolutely twat. He's just proving that he is the same cheating arsehole he's always been. Count yourself lucky that he's now someone else's problem.

kraftyKitten · 16/07/2023 08:47

Kugela · 16/07/2023 08:04

Sorry to be blunt, but do remember that some men will say almost anything if they think there’s a chance to get you into bed! He’s still a liar and a cheat.

Dad told me this when I was a teenager as a warning. Men will say anything a woman wants to hear to get her into bed .

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