My partner and I are both divorced and have no financial ties to each other. We have both been divorced 10+ years. The relationship is generally good and loving. We don't live together due to having teenage children we don't want to blend.
It seems he and his ex have had years of financial issues. They both had debt and possible bankruptcy when they divorced. Their divorce was meant to trigger the sale of their marital home, but it didn't. Due to them holding on to the home, they both continue to pay the mortgage.
Every year or so my partner seems to decend into a depression about finances, as their situation is financially unsustainable. He has a loan etc but his exwife refuses to move out, he doesnt want to go to court, she leaves bills unpaid, he picks up the tab, so the cycle continues.
He has now taken a second job to pay her latest unpaid bills, for the sake of their children.
I find the whole thing incredibly stressful, as I'm very careful with money and it's horrible seeing someone you love go through this. If I gave him money it'd be pointless, as it would be spent and then more needed when the next threat/default happens.
What do I do??? I think she likes the situation because she's in control and it ruins his relationships...but he won't stand up to it and sort it out?