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Moving in with new bf

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Ohwhatadag · 15/07/2023 15:05

A female relation in the extended family has moved in with her new boyfriend. Relationship is (supposedly) less than 6 months. It was 6 months ago that she split up with her ex. She and ex have a 2-3 year old, who they have every second week.

I was surprised and don't think it is a good idea. I think that you should wait until you know the new relationship is stable before even introducing a new boy/girlfriend, let alone moving in together. For the sake of the child.

It is absolutely none of my business and i would never dream of saying anything to her.

I guess it is on my mind as me and dh were going through a rocky patch and talking about splitting up. I was adamant that if he got a new girlfriend he would not introduce her to our child, and I wouldn't do the same. Until a suitable time had passed.

I have witnessed one person in our circle who was a "second daddy", then the couple split up and the child went on to have a "third daddy". Sometimes that is just life, but if it can minimised, so much the better.

What are your experiences or views?

OP posts:
Pinkbonbon · 15/07/2023 15:29

Have her kids met him yet?
Does he have any experience around children?

Might find after 2 weeks per month around kids when he isn't used to them, the relationship won't last long anyway.

It's a mad risk.

Ohwhatadag · 15/07/2023 15:54

I assume that they have met as they live together.

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Eva6437 · 15/07/2023 16:03

Who moves in with a bloke they’ve only been with for 6 months?

I completely agree with you. Relationship should be stablished before children meet the new partner, let alone moving in!

sorry to hear about you and your DH, hope you can work things out!

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