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Courage to move on

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Chillipot · 15/07/2023 10:53

Sadly our older children have discovered husband has been using dodgy dating sites. Since I confronted him he has admitted having an account but shows no accountability, conscience, nothing and carries on as though nothing has happened. When I told him I wanted a divorce he just said he doesn't! Children are obviously angry and won't speak to him . Our relationship has been in decline for a long time and I have stayed to keep a roof over the the kids heads. I know i cannot stay with someone who is clearly looking for something else, who lies and shows such little respect for me but I am angry that it means selling our family home, upheaving the kids when they have done nothing wrong. He claims he cannot afford to support himself and wants a 50/50 split on the house, yet Im expected to house and support our youngest children on my half and wage. Im feeling completely overwhelmed by the journey to divorce and I know I wont be alone in this so would welcome any advice.

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Tryingtobepositive123 · 15/07/2023 18:57

Hi, I'm sorry you're in this situation. I can't imagine how upsetting it must be with his refusal to be truly sorry.
I don't have exactly the same experience but recently separated from my partner of 10 years. I found at first I coped by just not thinking about the future in its enormity, and broke down all the steps. I just focused on each day at a time, what decisions needed to be made then and tried to live as much of a peaceful, wholesome life as possible. Everyone will survive and be okay, the kids will cope and go on to live their own lives. Good luck xx

Chillipot · 15/07/2023 20:21

Thank you for your reply Sorry to hear of your situation too Just incredibly sad and disappointed right now but really appreciate your advice Best wishes

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cheapskatemum · 15/07/2023 20:38

Depending on the ages of your younger children, your soon to be ex husband will have to pay maintenance for them.

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