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Sex with the ex

8 replies

Lo89 · 15/07/2023 09:22

I broke it off with my ex 2 years ago we have a DC together who is still young primary school age we were together a long time. Both in our 30s so still young enough to start over.

It's 2 years later and we still hook up for the deed now and then but when we do it's amazing in our relationship it was dull and felt like a chore.

I've dated 2 people since we split and he has had a few hook ups nothing serious.

He is still in love with me I don't think I'm still in love with him though.

Our relationship in general was bad but since we broke up he has taken me on holiday all expenses paid the sec has been great and he seems different.

Should I give him another chance or am I being a silly cow and should leave it be?

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perfectcolourfound · 15/07/2023 09:26

Don't go back. You broke up for a reason. That reason will still be there. If he can treat you well now, why didn't he do that while you were a couple? It sounds as though he's doing nice to things to impress you. That isn't real life. If you went back to being a couple, his actions would very likely revert to how they were before.

rockingbird · 15/07/2023 13:15

Please remind yourself why you broke up! They do say never go back and I kind of believe that to be true.. very rarely to couples break up and then manage to work it all out and get back together. Anyway, what about the kids? This could massively mess with their heads.

K8ate · 15/07/2023 13:30

We don’t know the reason for you breaking up in the first place but it seems very unfair on him if you don’t love him.

You say he stills loves you - so on that basis it sounds as though you are taking advantage of him.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 15/07/2023 14:09

If he loves you and you don’t love him it’s really unfair to shag him

either trial reconcile (if you love him ?) or stop

BiscuitsandPuffin · 15/07/2023 14:10

Nothing good will come from this.

Incognito2023 · 15/07/2023 14:36

Remember why you broke it off before… and just enjoy the FWB /co-parenting situation you have now,
Take care not to string him along with false hope though if breaking his heart (again?) might mean destroying this friendly, civilised relationship

Dillydollydingdong · 15/07/2023 14:41

What incognito says. Enjoy being a free agent. Just because you hook up occasionally, doesn't mean you have to tie yourself down.

pendleflyer · 15/07/2023 16:58

Thisisworsethananticpated · 15/07/2023 14:09

If he loves you and you don’t love him it’s really unfair to shag him

either trial reconcile (if you love him ?) or stop

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