Not a massive big deal, but is this rude?

[Mottledhellibore]

I was at a gathering the other day, my partner's family and a couple. We were sat around a picnic bench and some chunky wooden seats at bother ends. Because of chunkyness they felt set aside. I was sat at the table next to my partner of 8 years whom i only see at weekends and occasional evening walk.
Anyway 20 minutes in, I went to get a round in and came back only to find that my partner's father had taken my seat, so i gave out the drinks and went to sit at the far end. I appreciate he wanted to chat to his son and friend but he had already spent an hour with them. I thought he'd offer my seat back. Apparantly, seats are free for all in his family. I've been brought up differently.

I think this is an odd question. At a social event you don't own the seat you're in. It's normal for people to move around so they can talk to different people. It's sociable. You still had a seat to sit in. If you didn't think those other seats were very nice, why did you expect other people should sit in them?

I couldn’t get upset about this tbh

A big fuss about nothing!

Hmmm I wouldn’t personally get upset about it , it’s not a massive deal but I also wouldn’t sit in a seat I know someone was sitting in x

Ditto this. It’s not rude to switch seats and talk to different people at a gathering.

Totally normal to move around to aid conversations.

I don't think that's a "his family" thing. It's a totally normal thing. People get together and mix, sitting in different seats throughout the day/evening, chatting. Your post makes you sound possessive and petulant.

Completely normal to switch seats and have conversations with everyone in the group in a social situation, I think your take on this is a bit odd.

Not rude but I do understand why you’d want your seat back if you don’t see each other often. His DF wouldn’t think of that though, he’d just think ‘oh I will just move and chat to John for a bit’.

Goodness, why do you need to sit with him and unable to sit elsewhere. Is it a social anxiety thing?

and no, it’s not rude.

Like everyone else said this is completely normal. How else are you supposed to chat to everyone at a social gathering?

They’ve been together eight years and see each other each weekend.

I can see why you might personally feel.disappiunted but, unless there's a huge backstory, no one did anything wrong.

Wow I wouldn't even think about this, in fact it's better when people move around so you talk to different people

Not rude. I can understand you felt more uncomfortable in the other seat, but it's an informal family occasion, you move around, sit anywhere.

If you've been with your bloke 8 years, how come you only see him at weekends and an evening?

(I presume his family see him even less?)

ZOMBIE THREAD!

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I'm sure the OP is probably over it by now!