Dating - intrested on someone

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So I have been in a very long marriage and separated, then dated a guy who ended being a narcissist emotional financially abusing me.

I've spent the last year working on my self and I'm in such a good place. About to start a new career in a few weeks.

I'm not actively looking for some one but a guy at work I really like. (Won't be working there much longer.) we work completely different departments and shifts.

I have started to really like him and when we are around each other he makes an effort and is giving me signals he like me too, my friend even said he is definitely seeming interested.

But I have had to message him over work stuff and in a message he is quite dismissive. Not rude or any thing just doesn't keep any type of convo going. Yet this morning at work he was due to leave and ended up staying an hour extra with excuses not to leave and spent it talking to me.

I'm slight confused. I have never really dated and I don't no we're to start

I would just keep your work relationship professional, and be friendly and if he's interested then he will let you know.

A little frustrating for you I suppose but the alternative is to make a move on him only for you to have read the signals wrong ;-)

No I can't make the first move I'm way to scared.

I know I leave work in a few weeks for good I really like they guy

him over work stuff and in a message he is quite dismissive. Not rude or any thing just doesn't keep any type of convo going.

so he likes to keep professional boundaries. When using work communication channels he may prefer to keep things work related. Verbally it is easier to be friendlier.

Did he stay after work this morning specifically just to chat with you/ help you with something or did he stay and make himself busy with his own thing and chat to you along the way?

All you can do is put feelers to see where he is romantically. Does he know you're leaving? It might be worthwhile dropping it into conversation and see where the conversation goes from there. Maybe tell you're planning on a leaving drink (if you are) and ask if he wants to come along. That way it's not asking him out and it gives him the opportunity to ask in a natural way.

Yes he knows I'm leaving.

Yes this morning he was clearly staying to talk to me. Kept coming back and talking about stuff and then said I've got to go and did it for an hour.

He is a very sweet man.

I'm worried I've been through the mill with a nasty awful man he is just being nice and I'm taking it like it's more. My confidence is shattered.

My friend keeps saying he definitely likes you you can see when your both talking to each other your body language and smiling and laughing.

But again because of my confidence I don't no.

One of thing when we do text her says my name in every message like yes Sarah,

Ok thanks Sarah.
Says my name a couple of times on a text message

It's hard to explain lol

If you're pretty sure he stayed behind just for an excuse to chat with you then if it was me I'd just take the plunge and send him a message. I know its bloody scary especially when you've had such a bad experience in your last relationship and as you say, your confidence is shattered, but try and have a more positive outlook. What have you got to loose? You end up finding out that he does like you, or you find out you're not his type and you can stop wondering 'what If?' Don't take it as another knock on your confidence if you aren't his type, that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Be brave, take the jump, and use it as an opportunity to build your confidence! Just drop him a message 'thanks for stopping and having a natter this morning, it made the shift a little less boring for me!'. Just something to open convo up with him and see how he responds.

Go for it! You deserve to be happy 😊

I agree, if you're messaging over work stuff, then why would he keep the conversation going? I think you're overthinking it.