If a man says we need to talk...

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I'm going to get dumped aren't it?! He's been acting off for a couple of weeks so I've seen it coming. Oh well, at least I have cats lol

I would say so, either that or he has a problem within your relationship he wants to discuss

Yes most likely. Did you ask what he wanted to talk about? There is also a chance he has a problem he needs to share with you - health, financial etc.

We had words at the weekend because he let me down last minute to spend time with a friend who he sees all the time. I have a daughter so he only sees me every 2 weeks. He did invite me to tag along but I said no.

It’s not a promising line they give you, but it might be to chat to see how you’re both feeling.
if this was his chance to see you this weekend and he chose to see his friend that he sees regularly then I’d be a bit let down too. Especially if he says you can tag along, doesn’t really make it any quality time together.

There's no knowing until you're actually there and hearign the words come out his mouth, but in a way he;s given you a heads up and that gives you time to prepare for the worst (if indeed it even IS the worst - maybe its not the break up conversation, or even if it is, maybe a break up is not the worst thing that could happen to you at this time...) so when you meet up youre cool, calm and have thought everything through so your responses are dignified and a credit to you as a person. Good luck! Just a reminder that sometimes 'bad things' that we dread or fear....are actually blessings in disguise

@Hiddenvoice exactly! He was out drinking with the friend the evening before so it's not like he doesn't see him. I wanted to spend time with him, not his friend.

Sorry to say but I think with the details given it's likely to be ending things or saying that the current fortnightly arrangement doesn't work for him so can anything be changed.

It wasn't great cancelling your only chance to see each other in favour of his pal he'd seen the night before so unless you're super keen I might get in there first personally. At least be prepared to agree with him and part in a civil, dignified fashion.

He's probably looking for someone he can spend more time with - this isn't a dig at your situation (and I've dated women with DC) but I'd struggle with meeting a partner only every 2 weeks.
Maybe I'm just too clingy! 😅

I’m sorry, yes I mean I think usually this is what you think it means, for me it has been anyway. Something I learnt recently is don’t try to talk for them, let them say it and get it out. Even if it’s uncomfortable for them. I have a cat too and just got dumped. We will be fine! xx

I presume you said "damn straight we do" in response.

I mean the fact he chose to effectively leave it 4 weeks in between seeing each other would honestly make me think why bother?