How long?

[deathstarmemo]

Until I wake up in the morning not feeling sick and dread? Unexpectedly dumped a week ago, this is day 7. I'm doing ok but still missing him so much, it really hurts. When does it stop?

Plus I've been NC since he dumped me, I've been really strong but so just want to ask him for a hug so it feels better for 5 minutes 🤦🏼‍♀️

It’s very early days - obviously - so of course you’re hurting. Have a virtual hug/hand hold.

It’s a ‘piece of string’ question but I’ve heard it will take at least half as long as the relationship lasted? Did you live together?

Thankfully no, it was a short relationship of a year but I thought we were really happy, he blindsided me. I've accepted he's not my lobster but fuck sake it hurts. Miss him so much.

You should start to feel yourself within the next 3 weeks. That's how I felt anyway. I eventually distracted myself with the things I love. Hill walking, cycling & gym + seeing friends.

It does get better & you'll meet someone eventually who doesn't make you feel this way! X

I went on an immense hill climb at the weekend 🙂 it really got me out the depths of despair but it's just relentlessly hanging in the back of my mind. I've resorted to a bit of wine too which isn't helping, will hit that on the head and do more exercise.

I got non contact-ed (if there’s such a word ) the start of April. I was carrying on , felt shit at the beginning and was starting to feel I was getting somewhere when he turned up unexpectedly at my work place yesterday ( work for the same company). All very chatty . I now feel even crapper and feel set back.

Onwards with exercise, WeightLoss and keeping busy. Op it’s bloody painful. Hoping it will get better again. X

Well done on getting out - yes, exercise is great for releasing some endorphins and the fresh air/nature is is also good for keeping depression at bay.
I suggest you also keep busy seeing friends and family. Social interaction is very helpful
And remember these wise words… this shall pass!
hang in there, you’re doing well