Is this the right way to handle the disappearing/reappearing man?

[Cherryblossom200]

Hi all,

I met someone a few weeks ago on a weekend break. Both have kids and liked each other. We started messaging over a week ago, he was pretty keen constantly messaging throughout the day sending photos etc. He made me feel like he was definitely interested.

I haven't instigated anything so far. We went on a lovely date last week and he is tad but asked for a 2nd one. I went out the next day with friends and he constantly was messaging me, even if I didn't reply 😬

Then the weekend came, he said he was off to his boss's house for a party (he has a high powered job so makes sense) I didn't hear from him for almost 2 days. I didn't text him, then today he messaged me and apologised saying the party was very drunken and he went to a sporting event yesterday so was full on.

I responded back with just basic replies, tbh I'm not sure what to think. But I've definitely pulled back and not making much effort .

My view is that you still check in with a person during that time, it doesn't have to be anything intense but a quick 'hi, hope you're doing well just busy will chat soon' would of been enough. It's not like we're in a relationship 🤣

I don't know if I just walk away? I just think he must be seeing someone else and using this as an excuse. I'd rather he just be honest tbh.

Personally I think you're overthinking it this early on in a situationship.

Fair enough!

Sooo he is very availble during the working week but not at all at the weekend? I smell a wife.

You were expecting too much from someone who you'd been on one date with. You're not his priority at the moment.

No he definitely isn't married. That I know for definite, plus we normally message during the weekend. Just not all of Sunday afternoon that's all, or Monday.

I was thinking it all sounded far too much and that you must have been relieved when he toned it down a bit over the weekend!

I cannot work our what you mean by you had a lovely date last week and "he is tad".

The whole dating lots of people isn't for me! I don't have the time or ability to date lots of people. I'll probably ask if we next meet and then say it's not for me and duck out.