workaholic husband

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Anyone else in this boat? It’s honestly so lonely … he works non stop and it’s a cliche but I feel like I never see him. Then I feel guilty if I say anything as obviously there’s a COL crisis but I’m so low right now!

It's incredibly lonely. It's so neglectful of you. My DH is a workaholic and it has never gotten any better. Do you have any DC yet? Because you need to think seriously if you haven't but want them, because he won't change.

We do and I do feel bad, but all I can do is to try to keep things as stable as possible for them.

What sort of job does he do (if you can say?)

Mine is self employed and has taken no holidays this year so far. Last year he had two days off but then we did end up closing for Xmas

He has a week booked off in august and I am already anticipating the "oh sorry there's a shutdown and I won't be able to have holidays....!!)

I am lucky in that he's home for tea every night but then he goes out again til about 9/10pm with our son and they carry on working

This is my 2nd marriage and not really how I wanted it to pan out. But he's a great husband and step father

I don't have any financial worries so I feel like I can't complain but I wish he spent more time with me. 😞 I am always attending things on my own.

@Loafbeginsat60 he works in construction but it’s design of houses and layout. I know he has a lot of work on, but it’s so hard when you feel like a nuisance in the way of all the important work

Is it worthwhile financially though? Does he have to work that much or does he choose to?

He earns well but it’s hard because it means I am restricted in my career. I know it’s not a very MN thing to say but there’s no way we could both work this much without it really compromising life for the children.