Self absorbed friend?

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My friend can be a really good friend but at other times is incredibly self absorbed. An example is that she sends me endless photographs of her kids whenever they've been anywhere or done anything interesting, sometimes, there are 30+ photographs to look through. I always respond with something nice. Then, now and then I'll send an odd photograph of my children doing something and she doesn't even acknowledge it or respond.

Would you be offended? Would you say something?

I have this. Very good friend sends me selfies ALL the time, including pics of her lunch, dinner etc. I am totally fed up with it TBH.

I would simply not reply to your friend, if she doesn't respond to you. Or you could just send a thumbs up emoji

Start ignoring her messages. That's what I do when I'm bombarded with unsolicited photos from people.

I've noticed when you stop feeding bin to this "look at me" narrative this type of friend often just disappears entirely as you're no longer giving them what they want

For starters stop responding to the photos she sends you. She can't question it - she doesn't respond to yours. If she had the cheek to mention it you could just tell her 'I noticed you don't react when I send photos and realised I had enough on with my own life'.

If she's self-absorbed in other ways, you may need to distance yourself. I had one of those, years ago, and managed to reverse slowly out of her life. SO happy I did.

Don't acknowledge them. She obviously thinks that's the right way to behave.

I wouldn’t even msg her back with the pics if I’m honest. That’s a very draining situation to to be in and I’ve been there. If she says why didn’t you msg bacj just say you’ve been busy and then send her pics of what you were up to! Sometimes people don’t realize their kids aren’t the only kids on planet earth.

@HaitiHavana there's most definitely a case of this going on. I get to hear about every milestone, every award, every bloody thing they do and she evidently couldn't give two hoots about my kids, but then I generally speak to people about more interesting things than what my kids are doing.