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Anyone ever reconnect with someone having broken up because the time wasn't right ?

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cloudfoam · 11/07/2023 13:16

Just that.
We can't be together for many reasons right now but perhaps in the future when things settle, we may reconnect.
It's sad as the click and chemistry was strong in both sides but it's simply impossible to engage in an equal relationship right now.
Possibly a year or so.
Anyone?

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PondLurking · 11/07/2023 15:18

Dated mine back in high school, a summer fling type of thing. The spark was there, he was genuinely a wonderful person/boyfriend, completely in love with me, but we were young and I was entirely too free-spirited. We separated, I went to college, he joined the military... eleven years later we reconnected after both moving back to our hometown! It's been a fairytale ever since.

That being said, not every situation works out that way.

A lot can happen in a year. You may find someone else you fancy in that time and move on, or vice versa. The only advice I can give from my perspective is this: don't put your life on hold, continue to progress as if there won't be a relationship in the future, and don't limit yourself based on feelings.

aspoonfulofshoulda · 11/07/2023 17:48

It depends what the reasons are in my experience...

ReadtheReviews · 11/07/2023 17:53

Can you keep in touch, write to each other? Could be quite romantic.

Ariela · 11/07/2023 18:04

PondLurking · 11/07/2023 15:18

Dated mine back in high school, a summer fling type of thing. The spark was there, he was genuinely a wonderful person/boyfriend, completely in love with me, but we were young and I was entirely too free-spirited. We separated, I went to college, he joined the military... eleven years later we reconnected after both moving back to our hometown! It's been a fairytale ever since.

That being said, not every situation works out that way.

A lot can happen in a year. You may find someone else you fancy in that time and move on, or vice versa. The only advice I can give from my perspective is this: don't put your life on hold, continue to progress as if there won't be a relationship in the future, and don't limit yourself based on feelings.

This was like my friend, but a 17 year gap. Still very happily married 25 years on

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cloudfoam · 11/07/2023 19:13

Reasons are distance, kids at home, family commitments, shift work v mon/fri, tenants in house . All in transition so I expect by next year a lot of this will be sorted

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