I could do with some perspective! I left my husband 6 months ago, we were married for 14 years and it was not a happy marriage for much of that time. I spent my entire life pandering to his moods and needs and spent very little time thinking about me and what I wanted.
Since we separated I have become friendly with a man I work with. We chat a lot and have been for coffee. He’s made it clear that he’s interested in me. He’s been really supportive and considerate and is in no way pressuring me. Only last night he said that he’s happy to be a friend and just see where my head is at when I’m ready to think about dating. Thing is, I am starting to really like him. Is there any harm in going on a ‘date’? For so long I have felt like crap about myself. He is kind, funny and I fancy him.
I don’t know how to ‘date’! It’s been too long. I was thinking of suggesting we go for a meal one evening, that seems more date-like than daytime coffee doesn’t it? If I want a date I’ll have to be the one to ask him, the ball is clearly in my court for now as I have said to him over the past few months that I’m not ready to date and I know he won’t pressure me.
I’m kind of scared of making that transition though, and it’s probably too soon. On the other hand, I figure where is the harm in it? I’m not looking to get into a serious relationship. He’s not a long-term prospect. I have kids and don’t want more, he’s never been married and would like a family in future. We are both fully aware of each other’s situation so why not have someone attractive and intelligent to spend my rare free time with (I have 2 kids, they are with me the majority of the time)? We like a lot of the same things and could have a lot of fun together.
What would you do?