Silent treatment

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I’m being given the silent treatment from my husband.
We were about to have sex when he bit me really hard twice on my stomach. So much so I now have bruising. I immediately wanted to stop because he hurt so much.
he has spoken to me in three days because I wanted to stop

He hasn’t I meant

Girl he bit you. Leave him immediately.

The silent treatment is abuse. I am confused as to why he bit you though. Has he assaulted you like that before?

Silent treatment is abuse. I lived with it for way too long. It's soul crushing.

He bit you???? That alone is weird and worrying.

But then - - he clearly hurt you, but rather than apologise profusely to you, he thinks you should still be feeling sexy, and then sulks because you don't??

For three days???

So many red flags here - the initial hurt, the lack of consideration for your feelings, the lack of apology for hurting you, the assumption that you should have sex even if you don't fancy it, the sulking, the silent treatment.

Genuinely, this is leaving territory.

Forget the silent treatment. He bit you, twice, hard enough to cause bruising?

I don't blame you for wanting to stop op. This kind of sexual behaviour is only acceptable if it's agreed beforehand and something you both want. To simply bite you is very out of order. I'm fairly sure if you physically hit or buy him without any warning he'd not be happy either

The silent treatment is abusive behaviour. He's trying to train you no to disagree with him. He makes life awful so you'll think twice before you turn him down again.

I'd start making steps to leave in your shoes

This won’t get better.

he has shown you that he doesn’t care about you in any way at all.

you need to leave

He bit me because he must have got caught up in the moment but it was really hard.

Now on day 4 of silent treatment. The longer this goes on the worse my feelings are towards him.

but aside from that I’m having a lovely time not being nagged and shouted at all the time. Being told how amazing everything he does is and how I always get everything wrong. It’s been peaceful.

Sounds like this relationship has run it course. Not ‘just’ the biting silent treatment but how you describe him normally. How entwined are you? Tenancy, mortgage, kids? Time to get your ducks in a row and get free. 💓

Not normal.

Clearly you are in an abusive relationship.

Take pictures of those bruises.

Ring Women's aid for a chat.

Can you leave?

Can you call family and friends?

I hope you don't have children?

You need to leave this awful loser.

You really really need to get out of this relationship. He is treating you terribly in many ways, you can't be happy in this situation, life is way too short to waste it being so unhappy.

From your second post it sounds like you're his emotional punch bag, and now you're also his physical punchbag. This will only get worse, so you need to end it.

LTB

You say you "wanted to stop". Did you stop? What happened after the biting?

Irrespective of this, you need to get away from this guy and out of this relationship. Are you married/kids?

but aside from that I’m having a lovely time not being nagged and shouted at all the time. Being told how amazing everything he does is and how I always get everything wrong. It’s been peaceful.

Your life could be like this all the time if you leave him.

Causing injury during sex because he got 'carried away' is frightening and more so because he didn't apologise. He caused you pain and then sulked because you weren't quiet about it, I suspect it was deliberate and a turn on for him.

The silent treatment is abuse. The more practice they get the longer they can keep it up. Who needs an adult who behaves like that in their life?

He sounds like a cunt, get rid and enjoy the peace.

I must say that I agree with previous poster, I think the bite is part of some perverted 'training' from him. You need to leave.

How can you be helped here into leaving your abuser?