DH said “f&@k you!” during an argument

[AhDear]

We had one of those horrible drunken holiday fights that I haven’t had in many years. He has apologised but I’m a bit shook. Do I let this go?

This would be a thing for us (we both swear a lot but not at each other iyswim) but I'd be fine if he apologised. Drunken rows are the worst.

I say ‘fuck you’ none of the time. In 20 years together, we’ve never said it to each other. I thought this was normal.

Thank goodness for a reasonable comment.
I had no idea so many adults are sceaming fuck you’s and fuck offs to others. Nevermind thinking it’s okey and normal.
And calling those who don’t think this is normal and what most do as ’sheltered’ 😅.
This place sometimes….

Don't get drunk and retaliate. Walk away instead of arguing back.

The wise path would be to sit down together and make a joint plan to stop drinking, as it obviously has a detrimental effect on how you treat others, as well as being increasingly bad for your health as you get older.

Yep, the absolute worst. Too old for them

He got you lost on holiday and then said fuck you when you complained about it?

Great guy.

His character is one thing ... In terms of relying on him for direction/getting back I'd not do that again.

Have a look at Google maps and Oman your route, esp if you're going to be drinking. Or get a taxi if ones available.

He's still an offensive twat though.

During a particularly bad row, no that’s not shocking or abusive. Threats/violence unacceptable

Plan, not Oman wtf

I wouldn't like it but it has been said by my OH to me in anger and I understand that it's just frustration and let it go.

I am shocked how some people on this thread thrust their slack values onto others though saying 'grow up' etc: Just because some people are happy to go around throwing around words like they don' t mean anything, doesn't mean that is 'right'. I completely understand why this upset you OP. That said, I'm sure we've all said stuff we regret at times. Those of us that have a conscience that is. Others think it's 'no big deal'. 🙄I think that's worse.

Thank you for your empathy, and yep, isn’t it strange. I’m also struck by the people who’ve leapt in with ancillary advice about alcohol, following directions etc. It sometimes seems like once you post on mumsnet and show some uncertainty/vulnerability you are fair game to be addressed like you’re a bit of a clueless wally wandering around with her knickers on her head rather than an autonomous adult who does stupid childish shit sometimes, like most autonomous adults.