My partner of 11 years says I'm a narcissist. She has been diagnosed with bpd, clinical depression, and ptsd. I was unaware of any diagnosis except adhd.
yes I have lied. But the lies weren't to cover up an affair or to intentionally hurt her. If you know anyone with bad then you know that they are very suspicious people. Not only is mine suspicious but very intense and scared of being the only one to not know what's going on. This leads to countless hours of interrogation and you better have your facts straight and don't forget exactly how you recalled it because that's not the last time that one is coming up.
It's been about two years of fighting with my partner mostly about trivial bs that most just brush off. I'm not saying I have a halo but I have been very loyal and I work hard so that my family and I can flourish. So we have a super fight. I showed my butt after a long night of fighting and drinking. I didn't physically hurt any person but she locked me out of my house after running me over with my own truck. So I tried to break door down kids were awake it was a bad night. She says she fears for her life and I need to leave. I quit my job as a foreman turned in truck keys and tools to boss called my dad to come get me who lives 4 and a half hours away. All of this takes place over a 48 hour period. She says nothing in fact she mostly slept. I get to my dad's house she calls me tells me she's going out to get laid. I said OK do you. I'm hurt of course but that is a part of breaking up. I hit up my last girlfriend from 11 years ago on Facebook who lives 500 miles away to talk. We talk she bragged about her boobs getting bigger. She said you want to see them I said sure. She flashed me and immediately started apologizing. But other than that we talked about our lives were we had been updated each other on our family's. Me and my wife decide we are going to try our relationship again. When I get home she proceeds to tell me that she met up with a man from a dating sight and slept with him. I withheld the fact my ex flashed me. I also erased messages off of Facebook. But she knew I had been talking to her. But my partner had me believing that she just laid around crying the whole time. Until I got back then she hits me with I had unprotected sex with a stranger.
This situation which happened 2 years ago has caused our whole relationship to change. I'm a liar who she doesn't believe anything I say. Everything everyday is questio ed. If I'm not in her sight I'm doing something devious. I have no friends. I go to work and come home. I have no money because she doesn't work and help. All of my money goes to the house but yet I'm still accused of going to strip clubs and buying prostitutes.the only thing I'm guilty of is lying to avoid conflict with an unreasonable person and venting to my family about our problems. And recently she has found google maps. She constantly goes into my history brings up a day two months ago and expects me to remember every detail of that day. My memory is shit so I can see were she might think I'm acting funny about it. But what it is is frustration. I don't mind taking responsibility for a bad decision or a mistake. But I'm having a really hard time with not being trusted with every day tasks that aren't in her eyesight without being attacked. Please can anyone help?