Hi all,
Really hoping I can get some help and support here. I am really struggling to find a "pleasehelpIamtryingtodivorce" forum!
I told my husband last October I wanted a divorce. I won't go in to reasons here because that's by the by. We decided to mediate to agree childcare and financial matters. We each met with a mediator after months of my husband dragging his heels and delaying the process. Well he didn't like the mediator and refused to co-operate.
In May of this year we each had a separate appointment with another mediator as I'd prefer this to work than go down the court order route. He's had a month since to book a joint mediation appointment and hasn't. He always uses the kids as an excuse- he's been too busy over the weekend for example looking after the kids (even in instances they are with me over the weekend).
Mentally I just need some progress. I feel so stuck. I have had three months sleeping on an airbed in the fourth room/ my home office. Month 4 I upgraded the airbed to a sofa bed. I am stuck living in this room with a man who won't cooperate. I feel mentally very low, physically my body aches. I see no way out of this and no way forward. I am trapped and have days where I feel nothing at all and then the tears come. I am very conscious this is harming me mentally and I don't want the kids to pick up on it. I don't want to feel like shit anymore either.
He doesn't want to divorce until next summer (the kids will be at school together which gets rid of the logistical challenge of them being in two different establishments 40 minutes apart). I can't do that- I have had enough. Everything from him feels like a delaying tactic.
All I can do is basically nag him to get the mediation sorted which doesn't help the atmosphere at home and then it just creates more tension and stress at home.
Can I apply for a divorce now or do we need to get some stuff sorted via mediation? Is anybody else trying to divorce a non-responsive millstone?