Some slow burn upset has crept upon me this morning. Bf and I went to a party this past weekend where some of my relatives attended. On the way I was trying to describe who would be there, which children belonged to which cousin/aunt etc. As I was doing this, he interjected with "Oh, I know. The one whose kids are soft." It took me a second to realise what he meant at first, as I was driving and focusing on the road, but what who he was referring to were my relations with autism.
He called them soft.
I didn't have much time to react, as again - driving. But also this was said not far from us arriving to our destination and I didn't want to ruin the children's party by having a face like thunder and causing drama so I swallowed it down and got on with things. But on the drive home I kept thinking about it, and I started feeling upset. I can't imagine saying that about someone in the first place, let alone about the relative of someone you're in a LTR with? What made it worse, is I am currently waiting to be diagnosed as an adult with autism, so I am panicking now if I do get that diagnosis, will he think that of me too? Or am I just overreacting and being defensive of my family?
We have had issues before where he has implied that my diagnosis may be used as a get out of jail free card, and I'll use it as an excuse, when really, I just want to know wtf is going on inside of my head. So this has added further dimension to that. We've been together for nearly 10 years now, house, anniversary this week. And on top of all of our other issues this feels like the cherry on top of the shit sundae that is our relationship at the minute. :(
What do you think? Am I being a baby here?