Open relationship?

[Nikolas17]

I am a 36-year-old gay man & for 2 months now I am dating someone who is 10 years younger than me. We have not yet discussed where our relationship leads however I would like to ask you what do you think about open relationships. We had a conversation in the past & he mentioned to me that he is not 100% sure if he could be with 1 person exclusively sexually for a long period. I also know myself and I am not sure if I can do that either. What do you think about open relationships & how do you create/ discuss the boundaries?

@Nikolas17 - try Googling Ethical Non-monogamy and take it from there. If you’re an Armistead Maupin fan, you might also find Michael Tolliver Lives a useful read. It’s fiction but the central relationship is non-monogamous on one side and this gets touched on in the book. Also Dossie Easton.

But as a PP said, non-monogamy is as difficult as monogamy - it’s just that the challenges are different.

Also, I do wonder whether the age gap is relevant here. A 25 yo may well feel less ready to settle down than a 35 yo.