Death and family

[dentydown]

My grandmother died. And everybody is being weird.

My grandmother was old, and it was expected. Myself and my children helped to look after her. It was a bit of a struggle, but we got on with it.

Now we are at the stage of funeral planning, clearing the house, distributing photographs/knickknacks.

Everything has been left to me as usual. However, the family are coming forward and being a bit trying. Making demands et cetera.

Her son demanded, I handover all the money. (He lives aboard in asia, and hasn’t seen her for 30 years) I had to tell him that wasn’t going to happen until things have been paid for (my grandmother hadn’t even been buried)

I am keeping accounts of expenditure, keeping receipts, et cetera. He’s contacted me again, telling me I am stealing his money. This is because I spent £200 on funeral flowers and £200 on the catering for after the funeral.

I helped him claim the life insurance policies, I sent him relevant documentation so he could claim. And now he has blocked everybody. Nobody can get in touch with him.

I was the only one to visit her in the chapel of rest, but Family demanded I take photographs and send them to them.

Her nieces /cousins are demanding the jewellery and various ornaments . I have to package them up and deliver them to them.

The list is endless.

I am exhausted dealing with them.

Are you the executor of the will?

No money should be paid to anyone until probate has been granted.

I'm sorry you are going through this. They are making it very difficult for you by the sounds of things. Are you an executor along her Will? Or did you have power of attorney?

Are you officially executor? If so I would just tell them you are dealing with it according to the law and they have to wait. If not I would just walk away and tell them if they want anything done to do it themselves.

This is good advice

I not an executor, I have taken legal advice and was told that the building society would release the money to me without probate.

I have the money in a separate account and am keeping accounts.

I plan to contact a solicitor in a weeks time due to the fact my uncle now can’t be contacted. i suspect it’s because he got the insurance payment, I need to be able to see if I can legally apply for letters of administration due to the fact my uncle exists, but is overseas and has no plans to return here. This leaves us in the lurch a little bit.

Currently I am clearing her flat, updating her landlord on the progress (we are taking a bit longer) and sorting out her final utilities.