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Why do I assume the worst?

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Minerva38 · 09/07/2023 00:24

A friend and I lost touch post-Covid. She doesn't live nearby but we used to text and meet up occasionally before this.

As she hadn't been in touch, I started to assume that she didn't like me anymore and had basically written the friendship off. I thought about her now and then but never reached out first due to my assumptions

She's texted tonight like old times and were back in touch. There was never any issue, we'd just been out of touch for a while and life got in the way.

Why did I assume she didn't like me or that there was a problem?

I have made these kind of negative assumptions before in friendships with no evidence. Always thinking the worst and expecting rejection even though the reality is different. I find it hard to make and maintain friendships for this reason and tend to keep people at arms length so I don't have to deal with feeling like this

OP posts:
greenthumb13 · 09/07/2023 00:33

I feel like this too. I don't think it's all that uncommon but CBT techniques can help xx

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