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What's the best way to respond?

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Cherryblossom200 · 08/07/2023 20:19

Hi all,

I met someone a few weeks ago on a weekend break, the guy has been texting me all the time all the standard morning, evening texts. All coming from him. Up until now he has been very open about stuff, but the one thing he hasn't been open about is if he is dating anyone else right now.

We met for our first official date last week and it went really well, he instantly asked for a second date.

In general he messages me throughout the day, all instigated from him. Opening up about his family, sharing photos of his kids/parents etc.

However he said last night that he is having his kids tonight/tomorrow morning as he is out next Friday.

Normally when he has his kids he texts me occasionally, but I've not heard anything so far. I'm totally respectful of his time with his children, however I'm wondering if this a good excuse for him to have a lady friend over?! It's just an instinct.

Basically if I don't get my normal good night text or morning text it'll be obvious.

I'm not the type to date multiple people at a time. I like to get to know a person one at a time! Plus I'm too busy to date loads of people.

He has been pretty full on with me, and I'd be a bit disappointed if this is the case.

How do you think I should respond if he contacts me tomorrow afternoon as if everything is ok?!

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coodawoodashooda · 08/07/2023 20:21

I wouldn't

Cherryblossom200 · 08/07/2023 20:24

Don't respond?

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Mumtothreegirlies · 08/07/2023 20:26

Let him chase you and do some social media research. For all you know he could be married.

Cherryblossom200 · 08/07/2023 20:30

He definitely isn't married. But when we met he did say he had been seeing someone for a couple of months. So quite possibly it's not over. It's very odd as he has been very full on with me, especially with texting.

If I don't hear from him until tomorrow afternoon, I do think I'll just ignore him. I don't want to be with someone who uses their kids as a cover up.

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Cherryblossom200 · 08/07/2023 20:56

Just wondering if I ask how his evening is going? Could be a good test 😂 Or just don't say anything and ignore his text tomorrow lunchtime. Which guaranteed will come!

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