Giving up dating

[mrsdickleberry]

Had enough of the disappointment and continuous rejection of dating. Burnt out and I've accepted I am not cut out for it.

Would like a relationship but not at the expense of poor mental health and feeling shit.

I really don't think dating is worth the hassle in 2023 especially online.

I'm only 41 so I don't want to think this is it for an active sex life.

For those that gave up dating but still wanted sex, where did you look? Preferably not online.

Don’t think I could do online, I met someone via work, but that doesn’t happen often mid 40’s as most people already attached, but this was someone who was divorced and quite open & chatty so he declared to me he was single and I said I also was (he was moaning about his ex so I said I had that issue too). Not easy though to meet anyone organically. I’ve widened my social circle by joining some clubs etc too

@Zanatdy I am keeping my fingers crossed I don't make old age then I won't have to worry.

I'm 34 and haven't had sex since 28, fwb wouldn't be for me though I would develop feelings if you have a good social life you can meet people irl. I don't unfortunately

@MaxwellCat Have fuck all. Used to have a social life but since the pandemic ended so called 'friends' stopped making the effort and so I thought I can't be arsed either. The older I get the more i detest the human race. Most people are selfish fuckers with no values and just users. Sorry for the rant but I'm not having a good day. Hate weekends.

I'm having a day like that today and find weekends challenging too. You're not alone x

@JamSandle If it weren't for my parents or sister I'd of committed suicide years ago.

If by giving up dating you mean no longer using dating apps amd seeing dating as am activity in amd of itself, I think that's a very wise idea!

As much as anything, if you don't have hobbies or do things yourself, you're not going to be much of a catch either. The best relationships are forged between people who have common interests and interesting fulfilled lives. IMO anyway. Not.ones based on a mutual dislike of being single and a desire for sex.

What sort of things do you like to do? What sort of things did yu do with friends before the pandemic? Could you get out and do some of those things alone and meet new people?

@GreyCarpet I love nature, gardening, environmental conservation, walking, cycling, swimming to name a few. I am not desperate for a relationship and refuse to settle. If being single the rest of my life is what's in store so be it. Men have only disappointed me in the past and other than sex I don't need one.

I used to go hiking and cycling with friends. But since they got all loved up they were into interested in hanging out.

I'm not a group person so find group activities challenging and generally not my thing. But I'm happy in my own company.

If it’s only sex you care about, can’t you find a fwb/ fuck buddy?
Do you have male friends? They could be up for it.

Have you looked at conservation groups locally to you? Conservation is generally a group endeavour.

Or what about an allotment? You will gradually meet people there, one by one. Plus it gives you somewhere to go each evening/weekend.

Or perhaps rescue an animal, doesn't have to be a dog, they are a commitment, could be a cat?

Can you arrange a lunch/dinner/drinks out with your sister once a month at the weekend.

You say you detest most of the human race, that is harsh, but are you looking for someone who detests the human race as well? Would you like that quality in a potential partner?

Well your last post sounded far more positive than your previous ones!

I'd also second the idea of an allotment. I know a few people who have them and they seem to be pretty social places!