Not sure what I want to gain from this post but just feel like I need to get it out there even if it's to find others in a similar position.
I'm early 50's, separated a really long time (over a decade) and have teenage children who live with me. For years I focused on them and bringing them up but dated on and off over the years. Nothing really very serious other than one 18-month relationship. Just recently I've found that I have much more free time so have dated more but just finding it all such a drudge. If I like them, they don't like me and if they like me I don't like them. The latest one had a lot of promise, so I thought, but he called it off recently and quite out of the blue. It hadn't been going on for long so no massive feelings involved but it felt like it could have a future. Obviously just for me though.
I really don't know what to do. I'm lonely. I want to have a love life. I have friends, an active social life, a good job, I'm financially OK... but I still crave a steady, loving relationship. I just can't seem to find that person. I feel happy in myself but this is making me unhappy and I don't know what to do to stop myself wanting and looking for a relationship. People say it will happen when you least expect it or are looking for it but I'm not sure how I reach that point!