Is it bad to block/ignore this man?

[chocolateaddict231]

Hi everyone,

Hope your Friday is going well. In 2020 my boyfriend and I (now 35 and 39) broke up after 3 years on and off, he had treated me pretty terribly and I had been left pretty miserable so I left him for good.

Earlier on this year he came back to apologise, said he wanted all the commitment he couldn't offer before. I thought about it and considered it, we hung out a bit but I was feeling so anxious about the past that I decided I couldn't do it. Since then we have been texting occasionally but I get anxiety from it and I'm an anxious attachment type so occasional texts are making me feel confused.

I just want to run away from it if I'm honest, the past flashbacks are too much for me but I'm looking for advice about if it's really bad behaviour to just ignore or block? I don't think I owe him niceness but I'm a caring person!

It's clear that it's best for you, and him, to have a clean break and no contact. You don't owe him anything just do it.

Block
Move on and be happy

He's relying on your niceness to wangle his way back in slowly.
Tell him you're going to block him (if you really must) or just cut him off completely with no warning. Doing it either way won't make you a bad person. You owe him nothing after he treated you badly.

Just because you’re a nice person doesn’t mean you have to be a fool. If someone treats you like shit, don’t apologise for it! Block him.

I think l would tell him that after some consideration you want to end any sort of communication with him as you don't want to continue being in touch. If he carries on contacting you then you can ignore and if necessary block.

I blocked my ex and it was the best decision ever. They have a way of wheedling their way back in, but it's entirely your choice whether you let them. You owe him nothing. Do what's best for you and don't look back.

I would marry him and hope he'll change.

...jk, I'd block his ass.

To be clear, I don't think he's trying to come back anymore. Think we're just both attached to the other but being in touch makes it impossible to move on!

said he wanted all the commitment he couldn't offer before

Bullshit he wants sex. Save the drama block him and move on you don't owe him fuck all

Booty call!! Just block him, you don’t owe him contact that is a myth promulgated by mobile phones!

If you've got nothing left to give, that's your answer. Especially if it's making you feel anxious.

block, block, block.

Block, delete, move on