Can cheating lead to abuse

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Why would cheating on someone make the cheater angry with the person who was cheated on? Is that a thing? And why would they go on to abuse that person? Is it all part of a delayed teenage rebellion stage? Narcissism? Something else?

I know we don't need to understand our abusers, but I can't help be curious.

Cheaters get angry because they need to blame their partner for being a shit. So they look for faults in their partner and use them as excuses for their cheating.

My exH was always very selfish, but the year he was having an affair (which I didn’t know at the time) he was pure evil. When I left I weighed 6.5 stone (normally 9), I nearly ended it all as I thought everyone would be better off without me. It took a lot of counselling to sort myself out and build my self confidence again. Big hugs if you’ve been through something similar, nobody deserves that x