Is it my sex drive and how can I deal with it?

[menoornot]

I've been with my partner for 3 years. We don't live together, but are talking about it.
He has a really high sex drive. Ideally he'd do it morning and night, but recognises that my sex drive is lower.
I'd be happy with a few times a week but with plenty of affection in between.
We've talked about this and he understands but his sexual tension is palpable. Even after sex the night before and the day before (if spending multiple nights), he is so frustrated if we don't have sex. He doesn't push it as such, but he'll gently guide my hand down, and hope I'll 'get going'. It just feels like pressure (although he doesn't try to push as such) and I can't see how living together would work as I get a natural break now. We see each other 3 to 4 times a week and he'd like sex 6 to 8 times in those days and I'd be happy with 3.
Is this a sign we should end it?

@peachgreen really interesting posts, given me food for thought

@menoornot sounds like a good thoughtful relationship. Hope it works out for you both.

Thanks @rileynexttime. It’s not easy being the woman with a higher sex drive in a relationship sometimes, feels very unusual. But DP is an absolute gem.

I saw you posted later something like we need to resolve this or it needs to end. Do you mean end the relationship? I am asking because from what you have written, I do not see any reason to end your relationship - from the little I know it looks quite good.

Yes, there's a lot very good with us. I just don't know if it's sustainable long term. He loves me and will accept any boundary but I know he needs constant sex, or something else maybe- need to explore that. It's like it's bursting out in the morning as soon as he wakes when I'm just waking up and I can't just switch on like that with a deadline to get up for work.
That's even after a nice session the night before.