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Navigating the weird world of OLD

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autumn1610 · 06/07/2023 11:37

I’m recently single and looking to casually date against key here is the casual. I want basically to meet someone we can have a few drinks and then you know have some fun. I actually have matched with a number of people on a OLD site and met a great guy, we clicked so well great chemistry or so I thought. He was super keen at first messaging all the time, went on a date was great, had a kiss at the end and so much chemistry there. Again we messaged everyday cheeky messages, long and short ended up sleeping together, was a great night. Both said we wanted something regular but no commitment to each other. He’s coming out of a divorce and me a 10year sounded perfect. Since then he has dropped off the face of a cliff, said he wanted to meet up again but has a lot going on with divorce and custody etc I get it break ups are messy. Anyway I felt like he was making me feel too needy. I have deleted his number just so I can’t message again and said I’ll leave it with you, I’m not going to chase some guy for sex effectively (was mean to meet up this week) how do you keep things casual without feeling needy, tbh he’s made me feel a bit of a dick about the whole situation. I’m totally new back to this and just don’t know how to be navigating it.

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Incognito2023 · 06/07/2023 11:48

Honestly - and kindly - if you’re feeling needy, then maybe ‘casual’ is not what you’re really looking for?

Or do you mean you’re needy because you want to see him/have sex on a regular basis and he’s just been too busy? If that’s what you’re really after then just keep trying. Other guys will be out there happy to be casual and have NSA sex/relationships

Otherlover · 06/07/2023 12:06

Are you sure he was actually single?
Otherwise something he wasn't feeling about this connection.

samestyle · 06/07/2023 12:14

I think some peoples idea of casual varies, for men they will chase when interested in sex, so you won't hear again until they want it again and no one else available.

Others might see casual as dating regularly but not officially bf/gf. Sounds like he wanted a hook up.

PollyAmour · 06/07/2023 12:18

He wanted sex, he got that, he's not interested in anything further.

heartbroken40 · 06/07/2023 12:28

PollyAmour · 06/07/2023 12:18

He wanted sex, he got that, he's not interested in anything further.

Amen to this. These men don't want "casual" sex, they want one conquest after another

Otherlover · 06/07/2023 13:14

'Guys chase before sex, women chase after sex'

autumn1610 · 06/07/2023 19:41

Incognito2023 · 06/07/2023 11:48

Honestly - and kindly - if you’re feeling needy, then maybe ‘casual’ is not what you’re really looking for?

Or do you mean you’re needy because you want to see him/have sex on a regular basis and he’s just been too busy? If that’s what you’re really after then just keep trying. Other guys will be out there happy to be casual and have NSA sex/relationships

The second one… more his yeah I want to meet up this week it’s wasn’t a one time thing for me, so messaging being like this works for me let me know and then waiting for/no response. Like I want to scream I don’t want to bloody marry you it’s fine! I don’t particularly care if he doesn’t want to see me again as long as he’s honest about it!

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