How would you go about this?!

[Legoinmytoe]

Right ladies I need your help!

My partners been messaging other girls but he says he’s never cheated and only messages them after a drink (he’s out of the house more than he is in)🤥.
We live in a VERY small town and these girls do too so they know us, know me, know we have young children too - I also know that they are the type to not give a shit about any of this! the message I seen was a saved one from him asking when they were meeting up.. then messages I can’t read he was sending when I was sat in the same room!! they’re often in each others company and have been all through our relationship as we go to the same places.
I’m going to message her when I get her number and get her side.. but what do I say to get the whole truth ? I don’t want to be fobbed off as I’m the type of person to just go “oh ok”. I need to make sure I get the whole story.. I’m an absolute wreck and can’t think straight😮‍💨

He's cheating, flick him.

I would leave him, he's cheating if he's messaging other girls behind your back, the intention is there.

He's cheating. Don't bother asking the other girls, he's not worth your time or effort, just kick him out.

He's messaging other women whilst he's sitting next to you ? Get rid of him.

Messaging other women to meet up, and being so brazen as to do it while you're sat next to him?? Please have a check in with you self respect and tell him to get to the far side of fuck!

Don’t call her. Print out the messages and put them up in shop windows etc.

Please don't lower yourself by calling these women. Your partner is a cheating shitbag. Raise the bar and get rid of him.

Yes, Lego, your Partner is a cheat. He’s acting like a single guy and pursuing these women. You’ve seen his chat where his intent is to hook up with one of them. Making a mockery of you right there in your presence proves his utter contempt and callous disregard.

You say he’s ‘out of the house more than he is in.’ How does that work when he has 4 children to parent? It sounds like he’s checked out of both monogamy and family life.

Lego, don’t diminish yourself by contacting his harem. Send him packing while you weigh your options. He really does need to feel the loss of you. I can tell you it would be game over for me, permanently.

It’s just so disrespectful. Messaging them while in your company too…..wow.
To be messaging girls you know and see in your town is just downright embarrassing and shows he has zero respect for you.

I’m like you and would have to speak to the girls to get their side of the story as let’s be honest, he probably won’t tell you the truth.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Keep us updated

He's messaging other women. That's cheating. Get rid, you don't need any more evidence

What do you mean, ‘the whole truth’? How much more evidence do you need that your boyfriend is a lying, cheating, disrespectful prick who needs kicking to the curb? I couldn’t bring myself to be embarrassed further by messaging these girls for more information.

Take screenshots and post on social media and tag him.

Then pack him in.

You don’t need to contact these ladies and besides which they owe you nothing.

It’s your so called man you want to get angry at and then get shot of because he thinks you’re a right mug who is that desperate for male company that she’d put up with any old shit. You have no self worth and he has taken full advantage of this. Stop going oh ok to yourself when it comes to anything that he utters, why have you done that at all?.

Thanks everyone! I’d love to kick him out, it’s easier said than done though and unfortunately he’s just a rotten human being anyway! On paper he has it all (own business, money, friends, own house) but he’s a dark manipulator, the house is in his name and he knows I’m stuck I literally have nowhere I can go until I try and save to rent (my mum lives close but there is no room and I have no friends here) - he’s currently staying in the garden room

I’ve already been told off for embarrassing him about it I literally feel like a can’t utter a word about it irl 😮‍💨 it’s all so immature I only ever wanted a loving family life

The worst bit is when he’s been drinking he’s such a nasty person to me - but somehow when he’s out with friends he is the life and soul of the room everyone adores him - so when he was messaging her the other night he was giving me absolute hell..

What you have shared is concerning. He is enormously disrespectful and if i have understood, he seems to wants you to know how much he disrespects you and is not at all remorseful. Wow.

I hope you are saving and making plans for getting away. He sounds like the kind of man whose behaviour will get worse.

Manipulative men like this can make it hard to leave, so women aid is there to support in these circumstances and on the basis of what time shared i think you could reach out for advice.

*What you shared

It sounds like he's actually abusive. It's not normal nor okay for partners to get drunk and give their partner hell. It's abusive behaviour.

Don't bother trying to find out the whole truth, you know enough to know you need to leave this horrible man.

Get in touch with women's aid, they'll be able to offer you some support and practical advice. You may be entitled to benefits that might help you get out on your own.

Don't be beating on these girls it's your partner whose not single . He behaves or you kick him to the curb .

Leave him. He's cheating

I get the needing to know all the details but you'll never get the whole truth. There are plenty of reasons to leave him without losing your dignity by messaging other women.

Msdoglady where does it say he has 4 children to parent?

I thought that first aswell but they are right I do have 4, I’d put a post up recently about my youngest so it may be from there x