Having a child with a much younger man

[Wondering274]

Not sure what I'm looking for here, maybe reassurance? After years of fertility issues I've somehow got pregnant to a man 16 years my junior, im 43, he's 27. It was never supposed to be a serious relationship in my eyes, we met by fluke and it just worked. Anyway here we are happily living together and been together for nearly two years now. My baby boy is due anyday now and everything is going so well with the pregnancy and i feel like im with a man that loves and respects me, however, I am constantly worried about our age gap and what the future holds. I know my hormones are all over the place right now but any success stories would be great. Please don't be offended but older women/younger men stories are better for me to hear. In this world we live in no one seems to care when the man is older, yet such raised eyebrows when it's the other way around.

I don’t have any stories, but I think it’s super cool that you are breaking the stereotype! If you love him and he makes you happy, then that’s all that matters.

Thank you @Reabamum 😊

If you have pcos, apparently the effects lessen with age.
Also his age could be a factor in getting pregnant, if your previous partner was sane age or older.

Anyway, congratulations!

Age gap wise - who knows how it will go. Many relationships without age gaps don't last the course so .. .

All you can do is make a go of it and if it weren't to work out, you'll always be glad you had the relationship that brought your LO into your life.

I'll get flamed but honestly, I think romantic love for partners comes second to love for kids when the child are down (for good parents anyway).

*chips

I have a friend whose husband is 16 years younger, they have been together about 20 years now. She is in her early sixties and he is mid-late forties. They are still happy and together which is lovely, as her first husband was abusive.

One of the best relationships I've seen was between an older woman and younger guy - 18 years between them, and pure love and adoration.

No children involved, but both extremely happy ❤️

I’m older than my dh, only 7 years tho, got a few comments early on but not so much now we’re both in our 40s lol
if you’re both happy then who the fuck cares what others think? 😂

Op, your age gap is irrelevant, it really is. All that matters is if you're on the same page in regards to your values and what you want for the future. There is no reason on earth you can't grow together and have an amazing life and family.

Please don't allow needless worry ruin this wonderful time in your lives. None of us know what lies ahead, not a single one of us. Just live each day to the fullest, nurture your relationship, and celebrate being able to witness your beautiful baby growing up.

I'm 10 years older than DH and while we were younger it was totally unproblematic. Now I'm late 50s it's becoming apparent to me that age will begin to be a factor in the next 10/15 years. I'm trying to turn my life around with weight loss and exercise so that I'll have strength and mobility as I age - but for the first time I do regret the age difference

I was 42 when I met dh nearly 31..we had a dc when I was 43. 2..been married 8 years yesterday!

I had a relative and there was a 13 year age gap with her being older.
They were together for 25 years until death. No children but very happy.

My best friend (M45) has a wife who is 60. They were amazing. Great couple, we used to hang out all the time and she is truly a stunner. Now after a brutal menopause, she is no longer interested in sex and seems to put on a lot of weight which impacted her confidence. She is no longer interested in socialising with us which is really sad.

I think it really depends on the couple but in my friend's case, they seem to be drifting apart a bit in later years... Good luck!

@TheoTheopolis23 thank you so much ❤️Yes I hear that in getting pregnant a younger man's sperm can help a ladies mature eggs, seems to have happened for me anyway!

Thanks @honeyfox reassuring x

I know of a couple that recently got married - not sure of her exact age but her eldest daughter is 31 - and her husband will be 40 next year. Been together for years, no children of their own, very happy.

When I was 23 I got a 44 year old single mother pregnant that we were nothing more than FWB. We decided to give a relationship a try. It worked for a while. But after ten years and me being 34 and her being 55 and us never having sex but maybe once a month. I decided to move on. It was a bad break up.

I've somehow got pregnant to a man 16 years my junior
I think it was probably genital contact. Some friction, maybe. You need to pin down what caused it or you'll have a houseful of small people, to go with the youngster who put them there 😉

Congratulations!!! Xx

The French president is 25 years younger than his wife and they have been married for 16 years.

relative went off to college at 19, moved into lodgings with single mum and daughter who was about his age. He took up with the mother (22 years his senior iirc) Last I heard they were still together and she must be about 80.

Friend’s son graduated at 21, never had a g/f p, very quiet studious lad, but just a few months later introduced them to g/f 9 or 10 years older than him, divorced with two small children. Not the biggest age gap but huge life experience difference. Friend says she and her DH were really worried. They’ve been married about 30 years , had a dc when they’d been together about 5 years.

Just enjoy your family in the moment, that's the key to happiness.

No comments about the creepy, perverted nature of the older partner?
No comments about the obvious power imbalance?
No comments about the younger partner ending up as a carer well before their time?
This place is ridiculous sometimes! I have a large age gap in my relationship with my husband being the older person and the comments I have had are unbelievable. Like everything else on mn though when the roles are reversed and the woman is in the traditionally male role there is nothing but congratulations and praise 🙄
Sorry but it had to be said.