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How do I cope with this

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superwoman232 · 05/07/2023 18:25

My ex and I have a 5 year old and a contact court order in place. He was an abusive dick during our marriage and the divorce was one of nightmares. He has DD EOW and one day in the middle of the week. He steals my school uniforms and shoes and won’t return them and tells me to buy new ones. He won’t do homework with her to “spite” me and that means it’s done last minute and in one go because it has to be submitted the day after she’s back from his. This leaves her tired. How do I parent with him? No I can’t speak to him bc he calls me a cunt and tells me to fuck off. Do I complain to police re theft of uniforms? He has called the police on me before for not handing over her passport even though we have a court order saying he can’t have it. Now he’s acting out extra bad because CMS told him to pay CM.

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DelphiniumBlue · 05/07/2023 18:37

Don't send her in uniform. If he collects her from school, speak to the senco , explain the situation, and ask if she can get changed at school into ordinary clothes. You can get boot sale/Primark cheap clothes for that.
How horrible for your poor DD.

Pinkbonbon · 05/07/2023 18:44

Tbh I'd move as far away as possible with her so he never gets to see her. No way in he'll wouldn't I be doing everything I can to keep my daughter away from an abuser.

If I could I'd move countries.

Easier said than done of course.

AuntMarch · 05/07/2023 18:45

That sounds so difficult for your poor daughter.
I don't have any answers to dealing with her dad, but I'm sure if you explained the situation to school there could be some flexibility with the homework to ease the pressure.

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