It'll be the first ceremony/ event thing since we divorced a few years ago - but I just don't know how to do this. I'm really proud of my son, who's achieved so much getting a degree (he's ASD). But being around my exH gives me huge anxiety and I generally keep it to a minimum.
So I could just go alone to the ceremony. I don't feel able to take him out for a meal just the 3 of us. (me, him and the ex). It will just be something to get through not a pleasure for any of us. (well there's an advantage of DS being autistic actually because he might be oblivious to it all!). ExH can't help but lecture me and also teasing me, (which is either just meant to be amusing or is abusive depending on which side you sit). So it will be really difficult for me.
I do have a partner, so I could take him. (ExH does too but I don't know whether he's taking her).
What did you do in the same situation? I don't want to spoil it for ds, and I am so proud of him. But the thought of the day with exH is just making me hugely anxious.