Narcistic mother

[Lee98]

Hi, my mum is ruining my life, she lies and tries to destroy her childrens lives. She manipultes our father and he can't see it. Over 20 years ago I was getting married she said they were giving us £1000 towards wedding then the night before the wedding told me they didn't have it, I was sick all over pavement outside hotel. My husband had to get the money. I realised along time after she tried to ruin our wedding day. Recently my aunt asked about why my name is not on the house deeds. We have no deeds as we built house without a mortgage, so again she is telling lies. I feel I should stop all contact, any advice please.

Its awful op. Go low contact or no contact. Horrible to promise money then not do it. I went low contact as was so drained from it all. No easy answers these people are difficult.

Stop all contact with both parents. It is not possible to have a relationship with a narcissist. Women like your mother cannot do relationships and your dad is her willing enabler. These women always need a willing enabler to help them and he cannot be relied upon at all either.

Yes you are 100 %. Last week my sister and family home for 2 weeks holiday, they live abroad. My dad said they would have the kids for a sleepover so sister and husband could go out for a meal for her birthday. On the morning of her birthday mum rang and said " so your taking the kids to the meal". Sis was shocked. So later she rang dad as mum at apt. She said to him " mum got it wrong about the kids going too, dad unwilling to agree. Perfect eg of him willing enabler. So i have decided nc.

You’re doing the sensible thing. Don’t believe in any promises that she makes. Do everything on your terms.

On saturday night at sis house my 16 yr old playing tag with his 5 yr old cousins, later my mum said my son who is austic could have a beer. My sis said you need to check with me, she tried to override it but sis was not allowing it, so my mum found me with a fake smile and said is it ok for him to have a beer. I said no twice. She wanted to give me kid a beer to set me off and then she would look like butter would't mealt. Such a f bitch. So im done. I spoke to my dad about the other thing with her lying to my aunt and he was enabling her, so I have decided zero contact. Im done. Will tell all family if she gets my dad to ask about us, no comment. Its the only way. Would like to ask others giw they dealt with this. Thanks.