Pretend Punch

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My OH ‘pretended’ he was going to punch me during an argument, only he pretended with enough force to dislocate his shoulder. So I called the police. He says it’s just something he does to get me out of his face and he would never hurt me. Would you say I overreacted?

The fact you say DH and not Ex DH means you’re under reacting.

No you didn't overreact. That wasn't pretending, it was deliberate. He is aggressively abusive and he's threatening you with violence to make you scared that he will hit you next.

Sweetheart he does it so you know that one day he might. So, you are unsafe. Thus, you are under-reacting. I am so sorry.

Please, for the love of God, get out of this relationship before he kills you.

My ex used to punch the wall behind me. Broke his hand once. My fault obviously.. Because I pushed him to the point of no return apparently.. No physically pushed him though.

Even when I was holding our newborn he smashed up out home. I asked his dps for help. Their solution was never to visit and see the state of our home.
Get the fuck away op.

Totally. Fucking. Unacceptable.

You are massively under-reacting. This man is dangerous.

Thanks all, he is most definitely my EX now and I’m taking steps to move away and get support. There’s obviously a lot more to this, lots of other red flag incidents related to his alcoholism, but I wanted to see if this one act alone would be enough for anyone else to get the hell out. In my mind it clearly is, in his mind I’ve ruined his life and it’s my fault for overreacting.

This was a week ago and he’s already basking in the glory of texting other women, and planning on giving up his job and moving away so he doesn’t have the responsibility of the kids. He’s admitted he’s planning on ruining my life now, but all I feel is hope for my kids and my future - something I’ve not had for a long time.

Sorry to hear from those who have also been in similar situations, sending you all my love and support too.

Run, if possible with a police escort and the support of a non mol order at a minimum.

I say minimum, as if the police haven’t had DV training, you need to find one who does.