Ghosted By Boyfriend

[Honeybu]

I was in a relationship with this guy for 18months. He is separated from ex wife 8 years ago. He moved in my house 6 months later. A year into our relationship we talked about our future and I said it will make it easier and we can progress our relationship buying house together getting married if he start divorce proceedings. He agrees but never really does nothing about it so three months later I made it clear that I can’t be with a married man and even if he is not intending to get married to me yet I would prefer he get divorced as even to just buy a house together so fast forward 18months into the relationship he still hasn’t done nothing claiming he is very busy at work. So I said I can’t be with you anymore just go get divorce and come back then maybe we can carry with the relationship. Since he left the house 2 months ago. He sent a screenshot of all paperwork ready to start divorce process, we were in contact and him coming to see me every other day and suddenly not answering my call or text just disappeared. I was worried something happened to him but he just ghosted me. Can someone make me understand

Why did you need to buy a house together when you already had a house?

He sounds lazy and annoying (not being bothered about the divorce). And now he’s being lazy again by ghosting you instead of breaking it off properly.

Sorry, it sucks, but just try to forget him and move on.

It's not ghosting you when you told him you can't be with him. He's made his decision and is too lazy and spineless to tell you. Forget him he's not worth it

The not wanting to set the divorce in motion would do it for me. If a relationship has ended and you’re seeing someone else, what are you waiting for? I know if it was me I’d get the divorce asap. I’d want to move on.

I don’t suggest buying a home with him. 18 months is not enough time to make a big jump like that, think of all the legal nonsense that would ensue if the 2 of you ever broke up after buying a house. And if he’s that lazy about divorce, can you imagine what it would be like trying to get him to move out/sell the house? Yikes.

Paperwork screenshotted- is that legit paperwork? It’s not something he downloaded off the internet and expected you to fall for?

Either he's chosen his ex or he's dating someone new that doesn't know he's still married or doesn't care.

Tbh you set yourself up for this by getting with him when he was still married. It's good that you enforced some boundaries later on and told him to divorce if he really wanted to be with you but it was a risk waiting so long.

Better just to avoid men fresh out of marriages/not divorced yet. But, we live and learn.

You've found out he wasn't a keeper. He was probably never going to divorce his wife unfortunately. At least, not for you.

You ended it He’s moving on