Heartbreak - how do you cope until the feeling passes?

[DollyDaydream92]

I am just wanting some advice on how everyone deals with heartbreak. I’ve had my heartbroken once before but it’s different this time. The empty feeling, feeling nauseated, not sleeping or eating properly. It doesn’t help when they ghosted you (I know the disrespect is all the closure you need) I just feel terrible right now. I know I’m better off on my own it’s just a matter of letting time pass. And how do you stop loving someone? Do you ever stop or do you just get used to it? I need healthier ways of coping than hitting the bottle every night.

Im 3 days into no contact with a situationship (8 months) - so really not the same thing as you are all going through, and not the person I obsessed over (see my last post), but wanted to say if you want to check in everyday - I'll be here
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And of course @DollyDaydream92

Joining you on the heartbreak train.

Counselling is helpful and I've reluctantly gone back on anti depressants

Apart from that I can only recommend time to heal the wound. It really is a psychological wound, no wonder it is called heartbreak 💔

Sending hugs

Thank you my lovely xxx

Ii was in this position and felt all these things. I couldn't eat, felt sick, couldn't sleep. I lost 4 stone in 8 months because of it. I was left with a 18 month old so i still had to act normal. I have to say after about 6 months it got easier and there was light at the end of the tunnel. I started to go out again with friends, enjoy me time. I had to see him as we had a child, it took a while but I got there and you will too. X

Love to you too, I need to see gp about anti depressents too, and see a solicitor, the idea alone makes me want to curl up and hide but I know I have to do it, it really is the cruellest thing xx

Thank you for this, and Im sorry you went through this too, its good to know you are doing better xx

Watch TV but no daft romance stuff. Comedy, murder investigations, ghost stories.

I binged on Orange is the New Black. Did the trick for me. Girl power!

Thanks xx

As others have said, just time.

I also found it useful to read the science behind why heartbreak hurts as much as it does- knowing how and why my body was reacting made me feel a bit better about things. There's quite a few articles online.

Sad music- and let yourself be sad.

Try and keep busy- there's plenty you can do if you don't have friends nearby- cafes, museums, gallery, excercise group etc

I'm sorry, this will pass, it will xxxx

Heartbreak is so shit. So so so shit. I remember the not eating and not sleeping, I couldn’t work, I was almost walking into traffic as I couldn’t think straight.

my ex didn’t do anything to make me hate him other than say he needed to be alone (but he still loved me) I remember begging to god that he could be mean to be or cheat or something so I could hate him and not have such a deep pain in my chest missing him so much. It was definitely a depression of a sort

To get over it, I got a new job, moved to a new area. Rang him drunk. And finally moved on after about a year. Seeing other guys didn’t help as it just made me miss ex so much

That is the most beautiful poem I have ever read. Thank you

Sorry OP - I meant to say, it’s time. It will get better

Hi OP,

This is slightly less poetic but a song I'd like to dedicate to the woman who texted you to share her good fortune.

The lyrics are in French but google translate will help you out.

T'es jolie comme une aquarelle d'occasion
T'es belle comme une couronne funéraire
T'es souriante comme une gardienne de prison
T'es sexe comme une gaine de quinquagénaire
Puis t'es romantique comme un ciel sans étoile
T'es pétillante comme de l'eau plate en flacon
Tu prends aux tripes comme une grippe intestinale
T'es rassurante comme un cancer du colon
Salope
Tu tapes à l'œil comme une pelleteuse de chantier
T'en jettes comme un exercice militaire
T'es drôle comme un crime contre l'humanité
T'es chouette comme un déclaration de guerre
Moins attirante qu'une raie du cul d'mécano
Affectueuse comme un bichon mal dressé
Tu résonnes en moi tel un silence radio
Et tu m'apaises autant qu'un ongle incarné
Salope
Salope
T'es sage comme une image de film porno
Digeste comme un champignon nucléaire
T'es pas plus câline que ma scie à métaux
Puis t'es saine comme une infection urinaire
T'es généreuse comme un contrôleur du fisc
T'es réactive comme un guichetière à La Poste
T'es pas plus joyeuse qu'une ado dépressive
Je prie la nuit pour que le diable t'emporte
Salope
Toi ma douleur, ma faiblesse, ma promise
J'ai peur qu'un triste jour, tu prennes les rennes
En attendant je penche comme la tour de Pise
A fleur de poésie je trompe mes peines
Mais je redoute ce jour où de noir vêtue
Au gré de tes ruelles infesté de haine
Tu meurs mélancolique à tes heures perdues
Le cœur en berne je chanterai ta rengaine
Salope
Salope
Salope
Salope