Holiday impasse

[Fruitflylady]

Help please!!
I'm desperate to have a beach/pool holiday with warm water and snorkelling opportunities. Have been looking at a Greek island trip with DH, DS17 & DS12. Both boys would love it but DH ‘doesn’t want to go’ and when asked what his preferred holiday would be he just says ‘I don’t know’. I think secretly he just wants to go camping in the UK, which we’ve done in the past. It’s ok, but the thought of doing that and missing out on my dream beach holiday makes me feel miserable.
We’ve both booked the time off work, but I don’t know what do do now…shall I try and persuade him to come regardless? He would sit at the edge of the pool or beach watching but not joining in. We can do some day trips that he’d probably enjoy.
If I give up on my plan I would resent him. He won’t plan anything himself.
what should I do?

Haven’t had our ‘talk’ yet, but to answer a few questions;

• He’s a nice guy, a good dad, generous and kind.
• We can easily afford this holiday, but even so he doesn’t want to spend too much (but at the same time hasn’t researched any of this so doesn’t know what’s a reasonable price at the moment)
• We’ve been on a few similar holiday, and I don’t think he’s really enjoyed them. Not miserable, just not really obviously happy, almost like he’s just tagging along because he has to.
• He gets anxious leaving the house, maybe slightly OCD in that he has to get me to ‘check’ everything before we leave, and then has to go back and make sure the windows are closed, doors locked etc. So maybe he just doesn’t like going away full stop…

I just want to have a reality check that I’m not unreasonable wanting this holiday.

You say he's nice, but he blanks you and only wants to talk on his terms.

I'd book the holiday without him and go camping some other time.

So he’s decided spending a week on a Greek island will be marginally less awful than spending a week alone at home…😉