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Painful break up

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OhHarvey · 02/07/2023 14:26

Met a guy six months ago. It was a whirlwind for the first five months. He said he wanted to move in after a few months, and we were working towards it for later in the years

He I was a gift to him after a few painful years after his divorce. Said how enthused he was about our future together. He seemed so genuinely excited by me. And I usually have a good bullshit detector. But I let myself believe I had met someone finally.

No red flags. Family and friends met him - all loved him. He seemed so genuine and nice. We booked a holiday.

Then he ended it saying first of all that he was in a bit of a mess and needed to figure things out. Then when I pushed him he said he didn’t feel strongly about me. This has completely floored me. And I’m deeply heartbroken. Even more so than compared to my previous long term relationships ending.

Was he leading me on this whole time? He went through a painful break up / divorce a few years ago and seems to be never ending dating.

It felt real with him tho. I’m broken. How can I trust again. I thought he loved me and was so excited by me.

OP posts:
OhHarvey · 02/07/2023 14:34

He said I was a gift to him*

OP posts:
EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 02/07/2023 14:36

I'm sorry, he's a bloody time wasting wanker.

You said the first few months were "a whirlwind" and it's been my experience that that is often a bad sign. Talking about moving in within months? Nope. That is someone who is impulsive and doesn't think things through. Unfortunately those people can be very changeable and go from "I love you and we're meant to be together" to "Meh, it's been great but I've met someone else" in the space of a day 😒

OhHarvey · 02/07/2023 14:42

EvenMoreFuriousVexation I understand where you’re coming from but I know many, many couples who moved in at just 6 months and they’ve been together long term

I thought, at our age, when there isn’t much time to waste, and you met the right person, then no need to wait years to move in together

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BCBird · 07/08/2023 16:36

OP I am sending you a hand hold. It hard I know. I had something similar but instead of breaking up after 2 and a h tears over the phone told me he had fallen in love with someone else! Wallowed for two weeks then thought stuff u.

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