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Going through horrendous break up

33 replies

brokenhearted77 · 01/07/2023 19:29

The kind where I can’t breathe. I’ve only ever been this broken hearted once before.

I feel extremely lonely. Only one or two friends checking in on me occasionally.

I’m not sure what I have to live for. It’s one dysfunctional man after the next.

Lies, cheating etc.

Sorry to be down. There’s only so much the heart can take.

OP posts:

Tinyminx · 08/09/2023 12:19

Me too. 10 years. I am beyond devastated. I've organised quite a few things to do. My heart isn't truly in them but it helps me stop focusing on him.
At present I can't stop crying. The pain is unbearable

Cj777 · 08/09/2023 20:40

Hi
Sending hugs to everyone going through break ups, I can honestly say it is an awful shock and so many emotions to go through, I am about 11 weeks post break up now and am better but not over it yet.
I have found that friends have helped with welcome distractions, family have been supportive, I have been trying new activities like paddleboarding and swimming, hill walking. At the start I couldn't have imagined doing any of this so time does definitely make a difference, hang on in there, you can do this xx

Optomystic · 09/09/2023 07:38

Can I join? Me and my H had the talk last night. 20 years of marriage now over. I didn’t sleep much so feel awful this morning. We never had the perfect marriage but he is my friend and has been dependable so am losing a rock. DS is 15. I am hoping H might stay for his sake until DS finished GCSEs but I don’t know if he will. It’s sad, even though in the long run I’m sure it’ll be for the best. Short term though it’s gonna get worse.

Ginerous · 09/09/2023 23:01

it really is an awful feeling. It is a bit comforting to hear that people are coming out the other side though, even if it takes a while. I’m a week in and so sad and heartbroken. My GP gave me sleeping pills and they have helped with the whirring brain that kicks off as soon as I get into bed. Work has been a distraction and have been trying to keep busy with friends, kids etc. but the tears are never far away. I cried in a shit McDonald’s today in front of my kids which was terrible.

Ginerous · 09/09/2023 23:13

Should we start a separate thread for anyone going through the horror of a bad break up? I feel like maybe I have hijacked this one.

Optomystic · 10/09/2023 07:01

There is this one @Ginerous https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/divorce_separation/4837197-a-new-thread-for-those-struggling-with-separation or we could make a new thread perhaps for people who have very recently started on their separation journey (like on past week) and who are coming to terms with their situation? That way we can support each other in ‘real time’ as events unfold.

A new thread for those struggling with separation | Mumsnet

I wanted to start a new thread for those of us who are struggling to come to terms with separation/divorce, and to separate this from my personal thre...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/divorce_separation/4837197-a-new-thread-for-those-struggling-with-separation

AndJustLikeThat47 · 01/10/2023 10:59

@Optomystic @Ginerous going through same and desperately need a hand hold. Is there a new thread or can we use this? Devastated beyond words

Ginerous · 01/10/2023 11:08

@AndJustLikeThat47 try the thread linked above your post.

so sorry to hear about your heartbreak. The feeling is horrendous. I’m a month or so in and to be honest not feeling much better.

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