Childs father asking for me contact then me

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Hello.
So me and my child's father are going through a court case. He's only just started seeing my son (1) again after me being in a refuge, contact is building up with a few hours a week. Eventually we are back in court to discuss overnight contact. He's asked for Thursday till Monday leaving me with 2 days with me son. I have been the one to always bring my son up and have done all the appointments etc, childs father did nothing. I live an hour away from sons father and I don't get how he would manage school when son starts etc. I'm so worried he will get granted Thursday till Monday every week and leave me with 2 days with my son

He can ask for whatever he likes OP but that does not mean it will be granted. You are the main caregiver for your child, the courts look at what is in the best interest of the child. upending his life to reside with his father 5 days a week who has just started having some form of regular contact is not in the childs best interest. I suspect this is another abuse tactic from your ex to hurt/worry you.

Ha, bullshit he will get that. He's inferring he should be the principal caregiver and you have access probably wanting to show keen so that he gets weekly access, more likely the opposite to what he's proposed. I wouldn't worry, I'm assuming there was dv too if you were in a refuge? He's deluded if that's a serious proposal.

Yes so contact has only started and little problems are showing already like my son coming home with stained clothes, left in a very wet nappy and he's asking me for extra hours (he isn't aloud to be near me or speak directly to me)

He originally went for shared care custody and now he wants him more then me. I'm going to request drug test as I know he's still doing drugs.
It was an abusive relationship, he's lying to courts so much and I assume it's a way to get to me.

op you really need to speak to someeone face to face, your solicitor should be giving you very good advice on what they expect from you and your ex.
there's no way ur ex will get to have these hours, but u MUST start documenting everything. every time he comes home with wet nappies, dirty. hungry etc. keep a record.
you are the parent ur child know and have brought them up the courts will see this. do u have social
work support that can back u up too?

I have just started documenting everything and taking picture of my sons stained clothes and dirty nappy's. Just worried the courts won't really care as it's my words against his with stuff I can't take pictures of.

I'm gonna give my solicitor a ring after contact tomorrow with my son and his father.

I had a social worker when I left my sons dad due to the tensions rising but she said everything was okay and I'm doing a good job and discharged my I hope is the right word

Contact you local branch of Women's Aid (usually easier to get through to than the national number) as well as your solicitor, I'm sure they'll have seen these sorts of tactics from abusive men before and will be able to advise you.

Didn't you post about this the other day? There's absolutely no way on earth he will get thurs to mon! Not even Daddy of the year would get that. Not unless mummy was the worst of the absolute worst

Yes sorry, wasn't sure what was best to post in so posted in both threads. I think I'm overthinking way to much but I'm gonna speak to my solicitor when she's back in work!

How old is dd? If practical i would have a key safe at front door and leave phone at home she can text you when you return and it means you can get errands or pop out locally. Hopefully when ex realises you are not impacted as much he might stop being difficult.