I do have a tendency to overthink things and I have really low self esteem so I could absolutely be clutching at straws here.
My boyfriend is a really busy man. If he’s not at work, he’s with friends, committing to his sport or with me. We don’t get a huge amount of time to do nothing.
He’s recently changed his role at work which he hates; it’s really getting him down. He’s been coming home at 8pm some nights. This has worried me but he has explained why, and he will sometimes leave me voice notes ranting about it during the day.
He also doesn’t post me anymore. He’s never been a huge social media poster but he last posted me in march. We went on a holiday at the beginning of May and he mentioned he loved the pictures and will post some. He hasn’t. I mentioned this as a passing comment the other day and he got annoyed, telling me to “stop bringing it up”. It worries me that he doesn’t want someone to see…
Also, when we have sex he is either not finishing or taking ages to finish. This has happened with him sometimes before, but it just seems more common now.
I just can’t put my finger on it, although I am a hugely anxious person and my gut feeling has been hugely wrong in the past. He gets really upset if he feels I don’t trust him and he says I need to be understanding of how busy he is.
Am I being ridiculous? Outside of all this he’s very loving and encouraging, and makes a huge effort to spend time with me. We don’t really look at each others phones but from glances, I’ve never seen anything suspicious.