Do narcissists that ghost come back?

[thecatsarecrazy]

Long story short.. I met a guy online I thought he may be a narcissist.. love bombing... future faking inflated ego etc.. we spoke to each other for a long time, messages calls etc. Things seemed to settle down and i wondered if i had miss judged him. This week he said he would come visit me, I booked time off but as it got closer it was obvious it wasn't happening he was just fobbing me off and wouldn't finalise any plans. So I left a voice mail and said forget it, you have done nothing but string me along and fob be off, you had no intention of meeting me. Goodbye. We have had rows before and he would always call and we would talk it through. Not this time, I cooled down and tried to talk the next day but he just ignored me. Calls un answered messages left on delivered.
Its no surprise I knew weeks ago I wasn't going to see him but I still feel stupid. I deleted everything to do with him but didn't block, my question is do narcs ever come back? I've known blokes to ghost before for 6 months and think nothing of texting out the blue, or do they simply move on to the next victim? I no longer have his number and I deleted call history so I couldn't be tempted to call again but I know I should have blocked before

Yep, it’s almost guaranteed

I really wish I had blocked him, he did the typical narc thing sent me cards, love letter gifts but only stuff that pleased him... think sex toys not perfume and flowers I binned the lot on Sunday, deleted everything to do with him but stupidly didn't block. We followed each other on twitter he deleted his account so I can't block that, I spoke with someone who kind of knows him though work who said he's deleted his Instagram account too, I never knew about that he said he had never used it. I asked what was on it assuming it must have been dodgy and he said just work stuff.

Yeah he’ll pop back up at some point, they always do when it’s not going well with the next one or they want to see if you’ll still fall for their bullshit.

If he rings or texts, ignore and block. You deserve better x

Well exact same for me... it's been a year so far 😂 still left on read

Yep if they don't find another prey they will revisit an old one

Pathetic aren't they, I know he's done me a huge favour tbh because he was a total controlling cnut, would stalk my twitter and question everything. It was exhausting, and he's a total energy vampire moaning about anything and everything, work related crap or if he had a bad leg it was hanging off. Ugh. Last conversation I had with him he said his landlord (mate who's house he lives in) was selling up. Don't know if it was true or another excuse for not organising anything with me but if true he will have trouble finding anything else.

Never get over invested if you haven't met them, recipe for disaster. Why were you having rows if you had never met?

This is so common, there is an official term for it...Hoovering. It is all about power play and attention seeking when they lose their captive audience and have not managed to fill that vacancy with someone else. If men you barely know tell you the landlord is selling up...run...that translates as I shall be homeless soon and I am looking for a lady to cocklodge from. Lucky escape I reckon.

We have met but it was a while ago, he basically told me he had booked time off and I booked it off too but then he kept making excuses to avoid a conversation to arrange anything properly, too tired, ipad needs charging, my dads just turned up, I'll do it tomorrow. This kept going on for weeks then I eventually told him I had enough

I was with a diagnosed sociopathic narcissist for a short time(I didn't find out until he told me) he would do what you were describing and I was stupid enough to fall for it once. Thankfully I never invited him into my children's home before I got rid and blocked him on everything.

You never met him?

So how long had you been talking and how many times had you met? I can only surmise that the answer might be months and many times, given that 'gifting' you sex toys didn't make you see red flags?🤔It sounds like this relationship was dysfunctional to start with, so until you start binning off oddballs, rather than trying harder to get what you want from them, you are likely to find yourself putting up with more crap of others.

Well yeah now I'm out of it obviously I can see it for what it was. At the time the constant messages and compliments felt good, as I don't get much attention normally. He wasn't getting anything out of me other than time, like he never asked for money or anything like that. I know he was just using me but I don't understand what he ever got out of it. He's gone now and I just feel silly and was asking If he's likely to return.

You'd better hope not. They are the worst and will unfortunately cause so much trauma. Pray he doesn't ever return and if he does ignore and run far away. You'll be thankful in the future.