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Is this text enough to end Situation-ship?

19 replies

userbnjf · 30/06/2023 14:11

Need to end a relationship that has clearly just become a situation ship is this message enough or does it should like I wanting a response

Look we should probably just leave this now, we're clearly looking for different things x

I thought best not to put any emotion or to much detail in

OP posts:
sjm1x · 30/06/2023 14:12

userbnjf · 30/06/2023 14:11

Need to end a relationship that has clearly just become a situation ship is this message enough or does it should like I wanting a response

Look we should probably just leave this now, we're clearly looking for different things x

I thought best not to put any emotion or to much detail in

I would say this pretty much gets to the point

TappingTed · 30/06/2023 14:17

I think its a bit vague "leave this" could mean the current conversation you're having rather than the situationship (whatever that is)...
I would be more explicit and say what is happening and what you want to happen next:

Hey Scott, I have had fun these past 3 months hooking up on a casual basis/going to the cinema/walking your dog/playing xbox together (delete as necessary and insert own activity you were engaging in). I now feel like we want different things, and I would rather we didn't see each other again. I don't want this to be drawn out, nor do I want to discuss it really...so let's just leave it here. I wish you well, @userbnjf

determinedtomakethiswork · 30/06/2023 14:20

I'd send your message, OP, and add 'take care' - I think that sounds more final.

Dotandtime · 30/06/2023 14:22

I accept I'm old, but is it really OK to do that by text?

Dotandtime · 30/06/2023 14:22

In any case I agree with PP it's possibly a. It vague over what "this" is. What exactly are you leaving?

monsteramunch · 30/06/2023 14:28

I've been thinking and decided that it's best we stop seeing each other as we're clearly looking for different things. All the best x

Something like that? Bit clearer than 'leave things' which could refer to the conversation only.

Userengage · 30/06/2023 14:33

For me, our relationship has come to the end of the road. Take care x

Kingsparkle · 30/06/2023 14:35

Dotandtime · 30/06/2023 14:22

I accept I'm old, but is it really OK to do that by text?

It’s safer by text (assuming OP is female and “partner” is male), sadly.

WilkinsonM · 30/06/2023 14:35

Dotandtime · 30/06/2023 14:22

I accept I'm old, but is it really OK to do that by text?

Yes

Sunshineandflipflops · 30/06/2023 14:36

How long has the relationship been? A month? fine. Longer? a bit harsh

I was seeing someone for 5 months (casually) but he still had the decency to ring me to end things.

Sunshineandflipflops · 30/06/2023 14:37

I think text is ok, I just thin a bit more than a few words would be nice, assuming he hasn't done anything wrong.

userbnjf · 30/06/2023 14:37

Should add it's going to break my heart to end it but it's the only way, he clearly isn't going to give me what I want

I would love for him to step up and change it but deep down I know he won't

OP posts:
solice84 · 30/06/2023 14:41

I had something like this op
In the end I text and said if he thinks we could make a proper go of it then to call me
But if not then we shouldn't contact each other again as I had feelings for him
It wasn't meant to be fwb but it's wasn't going anywhere near anything like a relationship after 4 months

I never heard from him again

Pinkjacket22 · 30/06/2023 14:42

userbnjf · 30/06/2023 14:37

Should add it's going to break my heart to end it but it's the only way, he clearly isn't going to give me what I want

I would love for him to step up and change it but deep down I know he won't

Then a text is definitely the way to go. Don't give yourself the pain of anything else. It sounds like this situation is causing you more than enough pain and feeling shit. Hope you feel better soon and forget him. Daffodil

Creepyrosemary · 30/06/2023 14:42

I would find that harsh but I'm middle aged and have no dating experience the modern way. If you do text then I think it would be nicer to say something along the lines of: I enjoyed (something nice about him, his chattyness or presence or humor or our time together) but this relationship is not for me so it might be best to go our separate ways. Thank you and goodbye.

ActDottie · 30/06/2023 14:51

Dotandtime · 30/06/2023 14:22

I accept I'm old, but is it really OK to do that by text?

This!

Ejismyf · 30/06/2023 14:51

Id just say "Think we should just call it quits now as we are both looking for different things, take care" don't put a kiss.

Frogmila · 30/06/2023 15:19

Fine but be more decisive and final. 'Let's leave things here as we're looking for different things. All the best for the future'.

MrsMiddleMother · 30/06/2023 15:27

I think the text is fine and to other posters, yes it is absolutely OK to end an relationship by text.

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